Not really an AIBU but I really don't know what to do. Neighbour (I'll call him Bill) is 92. His wife died 3 months ago and he is seriously depressed and terribly terribly lonely . There are no children, no family at all except some distant extended family of his wife's who live a couple of hours away. They make an effort to visit every few weeks but have their own health issues.
He made a serious attempt on his own life about 6 weeks ago and only survived unharmed by total fluke. He's totally 'with it' mentally and physically is coping perfectly well. I pop in every day or two and he is good company and very grateful but repeatedly tells me how lonely he is. Today he told me he would have made another attempt on his life unless I'd popped in, . I don't mind going round at all but I'm not enough and work full time. I cant be there all the time.
So what on earth can be done for Bill? So far there has been
- Age UK offered a volunteer visitor (but apparently nobody suitable on their books yet)
- Day Centres etc (Bill refused point blank. He's very deaf and hates clubs or groups.)
- Social services (assessed him, he's 'coping well' and they cant do any more )
- GP (has referred him to some kind of mental health team but that doesn't seem to be regular or ongoing and he told me he's now been signed off)
- a week respite in a care home (Bill packed up early and went home and said he was lonelier there than at home because they were all gaga there )
I just feel so worried and sad for Bill. What on earth is there for someone like him?