Ex partners in contact

[Runlovingmummy81]

Just wondered if anyone had any experience of this....

I left my husband as he was emotionally and financially absuive. 2 years down the line and we are now finally divorced, and have a child arrangement order. All had to be done through the courts as he was being unreasonable. He doesn't speak to me at all, even in front of the kids. He won't put kids first with anything.

I am now living with my current partner. He separated from his wife prior to me separating from mine. Their relationship is fairly amicable.

We have three children between us. Been living together a year and kids get on etc.

My ex husband and his ex wife are now in contact and meet up with the kids?

Has this happened to anyone? What are your thoughts?

[pingu73]

Ummmm a tad awkward I would feel very very uncomfortable with that scenario

[Runlovingmummy81]

I don't see how it is going to do anything other than confuse the kids?

[debbs77]

Random! But I guess it depends why they're meeting? To bad mouth you? Or romantically?

[Runlovingmummy81]

She's taken her boyfriend of over a year (they live together) and his kid.

[Secretsout]

My friend (who's H had an affair) went on to marry the OW's husband. 😬

[Runlovingmummy81]

Yikes. How did that work?!

[Runlovingmummy81]

Are the husband and ow still together?

[Secretsout]

The OW's husband knocked on my friends door and said 'your H is shagging my W'. The H had been kicked out by my friend weeks before as she was sure he was having an affair. Both couples are still together. Though from what I can gather, the OW is very threatened by my friend and has caused a lot of aggro in order to keep them from having any contact.

[Runlovingmummy81]

Good lord!

[LornaMumsnet]

Hi all,

We're just moving this over to AIBU at the OP's request.

[VikingVolva]

What's the part you think might be unreasonable?

They are as single as you are, and can form relationships as suit them without the need for your approval.

[Runlovingmummy81]

Aibu to think it's a bit weird?

[missmollyhadadolly]

It's another form of control, OP.

Ignore, ignore, ignore. He's doing it for a reaction.

Has he had a relationship after you?

[Runlovingmummy81]

Miss.... That's what I thought. He's had no reaction.

No he hasn't.

She's in an established relationship and they live together.

[emmyrose2000]

I'd probably feel weird about it too.

[Runlovingmummy81]

Nothing has been mentioned since so I suspect it's all a game and ploy to annoy me lol

[MaisyPops]

You cant police his relationships. They're not doing anything wrong.

I do think he has a control motive or isntrying to weigh into your new life.

I know your DH and his ex are amicable, but maybe explain the history eith your ex in detail and ask thay he doesn't speak about you to his ex beyond basic pleasantries.

If the ex wife is a nice person there is a chance she could be easily played or manipulated by your abusive ex to gain information etc.

[Runlovingmummy81]

They are both similar in their controlling nature. I'm not sure of the motive for meeting up other than to try and be disruption to our lives.

We've both ignored it for the moment. They'll get bored soon enough.

[ChevalierTialys]

Can't really think of anything more awkward than the exes getting together for family time Why would they even bother?

If it's just to talk about you and DP then that's really sad.

[Runlovingmummy81]

I agree. It's sad that they have nothing better to do. I feel for her new partner! Must be a bit random for him!

[Starlight2345]

Odd..Yes seems another ploy to annoy you....Response if asked great the chidren will all get more time together...Will bother them far more.

[Runlovingmummy81]

The children love being together so yes you are right!