I'm in a group of 6 friends and we have a group chat. 3 of them are currently pregnant and 1 recently had a baby. All first time mums. Every day is a discussion on which hand-knitted bespoke teddy to buy from Etsy, or wallpaper selection, or how they are definately going to bf because they've read a lot about it, or who to invite to visit first.
After my DS was born I had severe PTSD (after traumatic delivery and then family arguments) and PND. I wouldn't let DH sleep at the same time as me as I was terrified of someone not watching DS. He was about 3 months old before I went out of the house by myself with him. I gained a lot of weight. Had a lot of counselling and medication to get through it and I'm still not 100% but I'm loads better.
When they came to visit they didn't seem interested in hearing me talk about my birth experience. I made them drinks. They bought a few gifts though. I didn't tell them how bad things were for a while and over message they would encourage me but never offered to come over when I was low.
I wouldn't wish what I went through on anyone. But their first time mum idealism worries me as it was how I felt before it all came crashing down. Some of it is jealousy too. I'm not sure how I'll handle seeing them when the babies are born as it'll remind me of my experiences.
AIBU to make excuses not to go?
Note: DS is now a very happy and cuddly 1 year old, I love being a mummy, but I don't want to go through childbirth again.
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AIBU?
As a PND sufferer, to be upset at my FTM friends constantly talking about preparing for baby?
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Pretendbookworm · 20/08/2017 14:41
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