Sorry this is a long story! DH's parents split up when he was 2. Both remarried. Mil and SFil are very close to us and a huge part of our son's life.
Fil didn't have anything to do with DH growing up until DH (with help from mil) tracked him down after 15 years.
Fil and Smil live at the opposite end of the country from us. It is a 9 hour drive. We haven't seen them much. In the 10 years we have been married - we've seen them 4 times. They don't have kids but Smil has a niece who loves an hour away from us. They visit niece & her dc quite regularly 3/4 times a year. Our ds is 4 they've met him twice. 1st time when he was 8 months. We went up to visit. They saw us for 15 minutes and then told us they were going out . The second time they stopped off with us on the way to see Smils niece for about 40 minutes.
Fil and Smil were married 30 years ago. Fil has recently converted to Catholicism. Cue lots of fb posts from him saying he 'now feels he has a family' very hurtful to DH who is his actually family but barely gets a look in. Fil and Smil are having a Catholic blessing - they are calling it a second wedding. We are invited but - I am a teacher so we can only go up on Friday eve and come back on the Sunday, we will have to fly as area isn't directly connected by train/drive takes too long, we have to pay for a hotel as niece & family are staying with them.
We are looking at the weekend costing £600. DH is very loyal and feels he has to go, but IABU to stay at home with DS and Ddog? We can afford to go but I feel the money would be put to better use, especially as we do not have a close relationship to Fil and Smil.
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Heihei · 20/08/2017 03:20
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