What can I do about this woman at work?
We work in different teams in the same office and a lot of our work overlaps so I have to see her every day.
A few weeks ago she cornered me in the kitchen and said "I didn't know that you..." it was something to do with my personal life- nothing secret but also nothing I'd have talked about at work. So I responded "who have you been talking to?!" In a smiley jokey way. And she clearly realised maybe she shouldn't have said that.
So today I'm walking into the office at the start of work and bump into her walking in too and she says to me "I didn't know you used to be married!"
I was completely baffled. I said "no you wouldn't know that, it's not something I broadcast"
I did used to be married, I haven't been married for a long time now and it was an extremely unhappy time , one that I don't want to be reminded of when I walk into the office first thing in the morning!
So anyway she didn't get the hint that it wasn't something I wanted to talk about- she said "yeah they said you were married when you met your current DP!" This is not true at all!!! So I had no idea what to say. So I just walked off! And she follows me and says "oh it's ok, you shouldn't have spent your life with someone you didn't want to, are you okay" I'm thinking please just leave me alone. So I just said "no not really, I don't like being gossiped about."
So then I walked off again and it was left. But I'm so annoyed. Firstly, where is she getting all this information from?! And secondly, I know people gossip, it's human nature, by why does she feel the need to admit that to the person she's gossiped about?!
Would I be unreasonable to discuss this with my manager or her manager? I just don't want this- I want to come into work, do my work and be professional!
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ToastyFeet · 18/08/2017 09:35
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