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To refuse to make dinner for my kids

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StuntNun Thu 17-Aug-17 15:49:23

I asked DS1 (14) and DS2 (11) to empty the dishwasher and reload it between them within the next hour. That was two hours ago and the kitchen is still covered in dirty dishes. AIBU to go out for dinner with DH and my other DCs and leave DS1 and DS2 to fend for themselves?

DorisMcSweeney Thu 17-Aug-17 15:51:34

But they could starve to death. Imagine that. You'll come home to find their skeletal remains clutching a pizza delivery leaflet.

Pengggwn Thu 17-Aug-17 15:51:51

I wouldn't leave an 11 year old alone for the evening, no. I would give them both a consequence for not having done it. Then I would do it. I would cook a simple (boring) dinner using one pot (like pasta with pesto, no cheese) and then tell them you will cook like that until they learn to shape up and help.

sororitynoise Thu 17-Aug-17 15:52:15

@doris that's hysterical, I'm in tears here

Yanbu

Aquamarine1029 Thu 17-Aug-17 15:54:52

Give them a piece of bread, take away their phones/electronics for a week, and ground them. Seriously, being the hammer down. They need to learn that there are consequences for their actions. You're their mum, not the damn maid.

StuntNun Thu 17-Aug-17 15:56:16

The 14-year-old is a pretty good cook, I doubt they'd starve. wink They both agreed to help out around the house more and said which chores they would like to take on. While they've been not sorting the dishwasher I've been emptying the bins/recycling and putting loads of washing on so I don't think I'm asking a lot.

What would you suggest for a consequence Peng? I have already removed the XBox because DS1 wouldn't stop playing it when asked yesterday.

DorisMcSweeney Thu 17-Aug-17 15:57:14

How practical are they? Could they go out in the garden and catch something for their dinner? Like a badger or similar?

sororitynoise Thu 17-Aug-17 15:58:20

If the 14 year old can cook inform them that due to the state to the kitchen it's their responsibility to sort out dinner, and the 11 year old will help.

(Order yourself something they'd like to really get the message across)

Steeley113 Thu 17-Aug-17 16:00:23

TBH for myself at 14, my parents going out and leaving me to fend for myself would have been a treat lol

FoofFighter Thu 17-Aug-17 16:00:37

Change wifi password daily and only give it out when jobs are done

Alittlepotofrosie Thu 17-Aug-17 16:01:55

Id make them make dinner for the family and clear up after.

Pengggwn Thu 17-Aug-17 16:02:36

I would remove pocket money or turn off the wi-fi or ground them.

MothertotheLordsofmisrule Thu 17-Aug-17 16:03:19

Like the wifi idea.

Bonkerz Thu 17-Aug-17 16:06:12

I have an app on my phone that turns internet off. When my dcs don't do jobs I give them a 30 minute warning then internet goes off for 24 hours!!!!!

caffeinestream Thu 17-Aug-17 16:08:54

I would remove the internet. Most 14yos would love an evening at home to fend for themselves - it's hardly a punishment!

PrincessDorisWindsor Thu 17-Aug-17 16:10:55

Wait a couple of years and you'll return home to find the eldest has organised a 'gav', all you vodka has been drunk and the stereo has been blown up from playing grime at full volume.

PollyFlint Thu 17-Aug-17 16:12:32

I would happily leave the 14-year-old and an 11-year-old at home for the evening to cook their own dinner while the other kids got a treat, yes. And I'd change the wifi password before I went out.

ApuskiDoo Thu 17-Aug-17 16:32:48

Doris grin a badger might be hard to skin. What about a frog or two?

EssentialHummus Thu 17-Aug-17 16:34:14

Can you combine a few of these consequences? Change the WIFI password and strap the new password to the underside of a passing badger that they will need to catch and cook for supper?

StuntNun Thu 17-Aug-17 16:34:51

They're doing it now. Apparently they both forgot. Does this mean I don't get to go out for dinner?

EssentialHummus Thu 17-Aug-17 16:35:16

Ooh, apuski, genius! OP, one half of the WIFI password to the first frog, second half on the second frog.

Bobbiepin Thu 17-Aug-17 16:38:05

Maybe don't go out for dinner but definitely make them cook. Have them wait hand and foot on you for a change!

StuntNun Thu 17-Aug-17 16:38:59

I haven't seen any badgers or frogs in the garden. Would a pigeon and a fox work?

ApuskiDoo Thu 17-Aug-17 16:40:27

Foxes are quite tricksy. Are they skilful hunters?

PrincessDorisWindsor Thu 17-Aug-17 16:43:17

Foxes are easy to catch. You just need a big bit of Velcro, and their tails stick to it. Then simply roast at gas mark 6 for 1 hour.

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