AIBU to want just a little bit of attention?

[EdgeOfGlory266]

The title makes me sound like a right attention seeker but I'm not. My husband and I have been together since we were 17 and 18 years old. We've got a child together and one on the way. Up until the last year or so (been together 11 years) we were always so cuddly. puke fest. He'd give me random hugs here and there, share the same sofa as me when watching a film and cuddle me to sleep. None of that happens now. Is it just a part of growing up? He still messages me several times a day to tell me he loves me like he always done. He has recently been promoted, and whilst this means he actually does less hours and we see see him more, he does work a lot harder and I appreciate he's tired. Perhaps I ABU and just hormonal.

[Pigglesworth]

I don't think YABU, physical affection is important I think. Have you mentioned this to him at all?

[WonderLime]

I think over the years it's easy to drift into patterns where we exist in each other's lives but a lot of the intimacy gets forgotten. When this happens, you need to make sure you are keeping the lines of communication open. I'd assume this has happened over time and he just hasn't noticed.

Why not make the first move by moving over to the other sofa and snuggling up to him. Then just mention that you are feeling a little lonely. I don't think he means anything malicious by not giving you enough attention - he probably just needs a gentle little reminder that you need him at the moment.

[EdgeOfGlory266]

I think you're right. I did mention it to him a few months ago and he did make an effort for a week or so.
I know it probably sounds really stupid but I absolutely loved it and just really miss it.