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To think Speedos don't make him gay?

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CoughLaughFart Wed 16-Aug-17 14:25:21

So I've developed a bit of a liking for a man I see swimming at my gym. We've exchanged nods and hellos as I see him quite a bit, but nothing beyond that.

I was telling a friend about him and made a comment about how good he looks in his Speedos. She sort of laughed and said, 'Okaaay... I think you're barking up the wrong tree there'. Long story short, she thought the fact that he wears Speedos means he must be gay.

Is it me or is that a bit of a lazy stereotype? I know they're popular with gay men, but surely it's not unusual for someone who swims regularly to wear them? It's not like he was dancing on a podium in a pink sparkly pair.

Of course he could be gay; as I say, we've barely spoken. But is friend being a bit daft to say I shouldn't even bother?

friendlyoctopus Wed 16-Aug-17 14:26:48

Gay or not he might make a good friend?

Firesuit Wed 16-Aug-17 14:36:26

A speedo is the best swimming costume for a man who is actually swimming rather than just mucking about in water. Anything else creates drag. I assume the reason most men don't wear them in the UK is that they care to much about how they look to wear optimal clothing.

inchyrablue Wed 16-Aug-17 14:38:21

Or he might just holiday in France a lot. There are lots of reasons for speedos for actual swimming, before you get to gay.

Laiste Wed 16-Aug-17 14:38:52

the reason most men don't wear them in the UK is that they care to much about how they look to wear optimal clothing

Don't know about that. It desn't seem to stop the cyclists grin

ShowOfHands Wed 16-Aug-17 14:39:43

My DH wears them as he's a serious swimmer. He's almost certainly not gay. If he is, he hides it well.

Cantseethewoods Wed 16-Aug-17 14:40:57

I love me a bit of budgie smuggler. On the right bod......yum!

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou Wed 16-Aug-17 14:49:36

DH swims a lot and wears speedos (great body too - lucky me), he is definitely not gay 😅

Firesuit Wed 16-Aug-17 14:51:04

Don't know about that. It desn't seem to stop the cyclists

Fair point. Though it could still be a fashion issue, i.e. caring about looks may not be about attractiveness, they just feel a need to dress like the herd.

Sparklingbrook Wed 16-Aug-17 14:55:48

They are not flattering but if you are a serious swimmer you don't want flappage from your trunks.

I know quite a few gay men but couldn't tell you what they wear in the pool. sad

Fauxtatoes Wed 16-Aug-17 14:58:15

My DH is forrin and they all wear Speedos where he's from. Whether it's at the beach or the pool. Doesn't make my DH or the rest of the male population of his country gay!!

Blazedandconfused Wed 16-Aug-17 14:58:41

At my gym/ pool all the swimmers on the local team, and the water polo players wear speedos.

It is the proper gear for their sport. Nothing to do with sexuality.

FreedomMummy Wed 16-Aug-17 15:01:58

I wouldn't relate speedos to being gay but then I may be being naive!

My DH wears them as he finds them more comfortable...and as far as I know he isn't gay! wink

PinkHeart5911 Wed 16-Aug-17 15:05:58

I find it sad that even in 2017 some people like your friend still believe this shit!

How daft to think someone is or isn't gay by the clothing they wear

Floralnomad Wed 16-Aug-17 15:09:08

My ds is gay , he doesn't wear speedos when he swims , he must have missed that lesson

GaryBarlowsTaxReturn Wed 16-Aug-17 15:11:12

My husband wears speedos. He's definitely not gay! He's a really good swimmer though so they are the best thing to wear. He also has a cracking bod so looks pretty good in them grin

BartholinsSister Wed 16-Aug-17 15:18:23

It's when the esses have worn off you need to worry.

Ohyesiam Wed 16-Aug-17 15:18:24

It's true, and all lesbians wear hideous shoes, and have shovels for hands.hmm

CoughLaughFart Wed 16-Aug-17 15:29:10

My ds is gay , he doesn't wear speedos when he swims , he must have missed that lesson

shockshockshock Send him back to Gay School! He might fail his final exams!

Smeaton Wed 16-Aug-17 15:33:59

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Floralnomad Wed 16-Aug-17 15:43:34

Christ , he doesn't listen to Kylie either or have his ear pierced . I feel I have failed to bring up a fully equipped gay man .

CoughLaughFart Wed 16-Aug-17 15:55:29

I thought the left ear was the gay ear?

I clearly need an updated copy of '100 Ways to Go Gay Today'.

dollydaydream114 Wed 16-Aug-17 15:59:25

Loads of men who swim seriously wear Speedos.

Areyoufree Wed 16-Aug-17 15:59:47

Smeaton We were always told red bootlaces meant you were gay too - one red, one yellow - fine. Both red - gay. And I agree with the right ear being the 'gay' ear.

Nobody mentioned Speedos though.

Kenworthington Wed 16-Aug-17 16:07:43

My ds is gay too, no speedos for him either. What an odd idea your friend has.

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