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New partner's holiday

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lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:22

So... new partner. Roughly a month together now. He had this holiday booked with friends before he met me so he obviously went.

When at home we chat a lot, texts, facebook, whatever, and we obviously see eachother a lot.

If you were me, how often would you expect to be contacted while he's on holiday?

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Mumof56 · 12/08/2017 14:23

I wouldn't expect to hear from him at all, unless the holiday is over a month

PinkHeart5911 · 12/08/2017 14:23

Well his on holiday with friends and you've only been seeing each other 1 month, so tbh I'd expect no contact while away or at the very most 1 message to say "having a good time etc"

lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:25

He's away for week, I think I forgot mentioning that

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Theresnonamesleft · 12/08/2017 14:25

None.

LAlady · 12/08/2017 14:26

I wouldn't expect any contact.

pigsDOfly · 12/08/2017 14:27

Do you really consider him your 'partner' after a month, or do you mean a month living together?

If you've only know each other a month I wouldn't expect him to contact you a great deal tbh. He's on holiday with his friends and, I imagine, will be busy doing whatever the holiday involves.

lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:27

Right. So I'm being a bit selfish.

I probably wouldn't have expected any contact IF he wouldn't have said 4939201 times how much he'll miss me etc & now barely any contact. Does that make any sense?

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haveacupoftea · 12/08/2017 14:28

Also none. You've only been seeing him a month.

lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:28

@pigsDOfly A month together. Ok, let's say boyfriend then

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lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:29

@haveacupoftea right, selfish me. Thanks for your input, I do realise I'm being an entitled bitch now 😂

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PinkHeart5911 · 12/08/2017 14:30

You can miss talking/seeing someone without contacting them. Sometimes in a relationship its good to allow yourself to miss that person and have fun with others.

crazykitten20 · 12/08/2017 14:30

Men tend to compartmentalise. Out of sight you are put into a box and not thought about too often.

lampshady · 12/08/2017 14:30

He's probably not missing you loads if he's with his mates having a great time. Maybe he thought he'd miss you more than he does? Tbh after a month I'd be a bit freaked out if someone layed it on that thick about missing me - it's quite unrealistic.

Cring · 12/08/2017 14:31

Away for a week- I would expect contact every 2-3 days based on being together a month. Just texts probably.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 12/08/2017 14:31

I'd expect a taa*raa from the airport, and a Hello we've landed.

N0tNowBernard · 12/08/2017 14:31

I'm a bit surprised at these replies. I wouldn't expect contact every day, or even a phone call, but the odd text - yes. A month in is the early lovely stage where you can't stop thinking about each other! Even though he's on holiday.

VelvetSpoon · 12/08/2017 14:31

I wouldn't contact someone I'd been dating for only a month (have you even had the official talk yet?) whilst on a weeks holiday, so I wouldn't expect to be contacted either.

lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:32

I know I will sound like a fucking lunatic. But: this relationship is something I never had (and consider that I almost got married with ex so obviously not used to a new relationship anymore as I've been with ex 5 yrs), It's just the chemistry, the way I feel with him. It might sound really crazy, but we've done a lot in a month. (i'm not crazy, am I?), so now I'm finding myself wanting him to text me and missing him

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notevernotnevernotnohow · 12/08/2017 14:32

You're seeing each other for a few weeks, he's a casual boyfriend at best. No, I would not particularly expect him to be contacting you while on holiday.

lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:33

@N0tNowBernard me 2 tbh!

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VelvetSpoon · 12/08/2017 14:33

Also if he's away with friends -

Is it a lads holiday type thing?

Do his friends know about you?

lunaysol3828 · 12/08/2017 14:33

@notevernotnevernotnohow I really don't think is casual

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PinkHeart5911 · 12/08/2017 14:33

You may of done a lot in a month, but it's still only 1 month which is no time at all.

pigsDOfly · 12/08/2017 14:34

I don't think you're being an entitled bitch OP.

He's away on holiday and you're stuck at home. Understandably you're feeling a bit neglected. Keep yourself busy and the time will soon pass.

And when he gets back don't whatever you do ask him why you didn't hear from him, you'll just sound needy.

TidyDancer · 12/08/2017 14:34

Yeah tbh I wouldn't expect anything tbh. A text to say safely landed and maybe once during the week would be nice but not to be expected.

You've only been seeing this person for a few weeks, I'm not sure you can put boyfriend expectations on him after that time.

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