having a bit of a tough situation and struggling a bit on what to do.
a few weeks ago a colleague, who is also a close friend, told me she kissed a married colleague in our work, in a place that is off limits for staff due to H&S.
I was a bit erm about it, wasn't judging her but he is a bit of a sleeze. She had been going through a really tough time and I felt like he was taking advantage of her and her frame of mind at the time.
I asked her if he was married and the response was (i'm paraphrasing) "not my problem" - as she didn't really confirm either way, I asked another colleague who confirmed he is. Where I fucked up is I told my other colleague what happened. I didn't want someone who was a close friend to be taken advantage of but I understand she's an adult.
Thereafter I pretty much forgot about it, but time and again when this guy was around me he would say things like "oh someones in a mood with me" (because I just didn't engage with him or make small talk, I dont really like his morals and didn't need to for work purposes so didn't see the need to) and asking if I wanted to go on a walk with him. Just generally weird and suggestive things. It confirmed to me that the guy is a total waste of space.
This guy has obviously now said something to my friend/colleague as she pulled me aside and asked me today (in still a public part of the office) if a) i had been rude to him and b) if i had told anyone.
I said that I just didn't engage with him and that yes I had told someone because I was concerned that he was taking advantage.
She has pretty much lost the head with me, saying that I'm ruining her reputation, gossiping and broken her trust. She has been a good friend to me and now I don't know what to do.
Thanks sorry for the length!
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buddhasbelly · 26/07/2017 16:57
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