Actually it's my BILs partner. I have unfollowed her on FB a few times and always follow again cos she posts photos of our nephew every day so I absurdly feel like a bad auntie keeping that invisible on purpose. He's a lovely little boy.
But her FB talks about her dead parents literally every single week of her life.
Her Dad died when she was 19, and her Mum who was her best friend died just before she got pregnant. I am not for one second suggesting those were not traumatic events. I lost both my parents unexpectedly last year just 4 months apart - I know what it's like.
BUT I find myself becoming really irritated by her FB activity.
She will do one of the following every week and sometimes twice a week: change her profile pic to one of her dead parents, post a meme about stars in the sky or some maudlin poem, write something about some anniversary and missing them, post on her own wall tagging a friend who's parent died that week years ago and go "AnneX, can you believe we lost your Mam 5 years ago this week! Dad is 17 years gone now, it never gets any easier Hun" prompting numerous comments consoling them BOTH.
Basically she appears to be relentlessly mining for sympathy. And she gets it cos her Friend list is vast.
I asked my BIL if she was ok cos of all the posts and he said yeah she was 100% fine and she wasn't depressed at all and basically said FB isn't reflective of her real life.
Why does it bother me SO MUCH??! It's her choice right? I should just unfollow her and ignore it right? I literally get so annoyed about her sympathy mining that I don't want to see her in real life!
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TinaBelcher · 24/07/2017 08:10
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