Given that it's tit for tat essentially.
I know she means well - and I am certainly pissed off at the state of my house. DH has been house husbanding, but that does not appear to include cleaning and believe me folks, my standards are pretty low. Ma is retired. As it Dad and they have unemployed DB living with them currently. I work a 60/70 hour week, have just stopped for the holidays and have huge fucking amounts of planning to do in that time and resources to create for new GCSE/A level.
Am I really fucking ungrateful that although I accepted when Ma rang today and suggested that she come help me out for a couple of days cleaning and then I come do the same for her because 'it's more fun/motivating with two of you' I just feel pissed off and bitter.
I don't actually want to clean up my own shithole. I don't get why I'm breaking up for the holidays and just starting more 'wife work' that should have been done by DH or DD (21 and living here). I am sole breadwinner and work very long hours. And neither of them contribute much.
I really don't want to go clean Ma and Pa's house on top. Would have gratefully accepted help from Mam but now feeling pissed off that it's not out of kindness, it's a favour to be returned. And pissed off that there are three of them doing fuck all in that household who could clean it up. I know DPs are getting on - but there's nothing stopping DB scrubbing her skirting boards/cleaning grout up the top of a ladder or whatever she's after!
Am I a cow? Or just really pissed off with women's perceived roles. DH has now fucked off to do some work and left me with all the child care as well for a few weeks (Still got a DS at home). DD has gone off to Ibiza with mates.
Ma lives with two blokes, but is the only one who cleans. Holiday - what fucking holiday? If there is reincarnation can you put down for 'cocklodger' do you think? If not, I'm going for 'cat' I guess.
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BlessYourCottonSocks · 24/07/2017 02:50
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