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AIBU?

To think 12 is too young for fake tan?

24 replies

Fianceechickie · 23/07/2017 17:14

Thoughts? My DSD12 is allowed to wear self tan for parties etc by her mum. She has very fair skin, freckles and red hair and to my mind looks beautiful as she is. None of my business I know some of you will say and I've no intention of saying anything but just interested what age ppl are letting their DCs start wearing it.

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GettingMarried17 · 23/07/2017 17:15

I was an Irish dancer, so started wearing tan at 6. Much better than encouraging her to tan with the use of the sun! As far as I'm aware, no fake tan brand causes a cancer.
Let her get on with it x

Justhadmyhaircut · 23/07/2017 17:17

As long as its not your bedding that gets ruined!
Or you that has to do her back!!
Dd always used it complain it wasn't quite right. .

squoosh · 23/07/2017 17:18

I was an Irish dancer, so started wearing tan at 6.

I'd love to know who the bright spark was who came up with the idea that Irish dancing and bronzed skin went together. Irish dancers should be pasty as fuck.

squoosh · 23/07/2017 17:20

As for your step daughter OP, well I tend to think that 12 is quite a young age to get on that hamster wheel of cosmetic enhancement but I'd keep my thoughts to myself.

BackforGood · 23/07/2017 17:25

Beautifully put squoosh - in both posts.

HoneyIshrunktheBiscuit · 23/07/2017 17:26

Stay out of it

cariadlet · 23/07/2017 17:26

my dd is 14 and hasn't asked for it yet. I wouldn't stop her now, but I would discourage it. I wouldn't have let her at 12. I think that young skin looks lovely without being caked in self-tan or loads of make up.

I hope you don't mind me hijacking this thread, but wondered at what age people let their dds wear high heels? I've banned my dd, because they are so bad for your feet. So far we've had disagreements about other things, but not about this. But I know that she loves shoes and think that she might start pushing to wear heels soon.

IWouldLikeToSeeTheseMangoes · 23/07/2017 17:29

YANBU. Ridiculous. Why can't people just let kids be kids for a bit longer instead of the ever increasing quest for make up, nails done, tanning etc on younger and younger girls? Plenty of time for all that later.

Eolian · 23/07/2017 17:31

What Squoosh said. I have a nearly 12 yo dd who is very pale. Some girls in her year and loads in the years above are alarmingly orange with fake tan and make-up. I think it looks awful and think it's a shame that they feel the need. Fortunately dd seems happy to embrace her paleness and has no interest in make-up yet.

Underthemoonlight · 23/07/2017 17:32

It's not your place to comment it's up to her mother how she parents her child when she has her.

Birdsgottaf1y · 23/07/2017 17:32

My middle DD started wearing it around 12, then around 14, she was going for the Amy Winehouse look, pale with a bee hive.

At 18-22 (now), she gets her makeup done for special occasions and mainly doesn't wear any, at other times.

I've watched my three girls and their peer group all grow up, they've all looked overdone and ridiculous at times. Nearly all have tried looks that some would class as too old for them.

It doesn't mean anything and isn't worth worrying about.

I've just always reiterated that they have fantastic skin and don't need most of what the beauty industry will try to sell them.

As long as they are having fun with what they use.

squoosh · 23/07/2017 17:40

cariadlet I notice that all the cool teens are dressed in 90s fashion these days and this includes boots with sensible 90s style block heels. Maybe point your daughter in this direction. Less chance of a broken ankle than in vertiginous heels!

GettingMarried17 · 23/07/2017 17:59

@squoosh bit judgey aren't we? Hmm

The tan is to make the white socks stand out more, so that judges can see the feet movement more clearly.

squoosh · 23/07/2017 18:03

That will be why they look like oompa loompas who've had an electric shock.

If only someone had told Jean Butler that she'd have been much more successful dancing career if she'd coated herself in Ronseal and worn a synthetic bubble perm. Poor Jean.

LaurieMarlow · 23/07/2017 18:11

The tan for Irish dancers is gross and unnecessary. And that justification is laughable.

OP, I would agree she's too young. But difficult if her mothers already given the ok. Maybe stay out of this one.

specialsubject · 23/07/2017 18:26

Won't do any harm.

Oompa loompa,loompa de doo...

LittleBooInABox · 23/07/2017 18:30

Are they your kids?
Does them wearing fake tan impact your life in anyway?

If the answer to both of those is no. This thread is a waste of both time and pixels.

Windycityblues · 23/07/2017 18:33

Squoosh, as a pasty Celt your post made me laugh out loud.

squoosh · 23/07/2017 18:38
dementedma · 23/07/2017 18:41

Dd won loads of medals at Irish dancing without us ever having to resort to fake tan, lashings of make up and a huge Shirley Temple wig.

FatCatFaces · 23/07/2017 18:44

I used to be obsessed with toiletries, cosmetics and nail polish. I think I first used fake tan in year 6, wore makeup throughout the whole of secondary school, always had painted nails and loved nothing more than buying a new shampoo/shower gel.

I haven't turned into a vacuous waste of space although I no longer wear fake tan, dye my hair or paint my nails, as I'm lazy.

Some girls just like to play with cosmetics. I don't think it needs to be a big moral dilemma.

DotForShort · 23/07/2017 18:45

Frankly, I think 92 is too young for a fake tan. Or 102. It looks dreadful at any age IMO.

But people have different opinions. If your DSD's parents are O.K. with it, that's all that matters. Shrug.

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Justhadmyhaircut · 23/07/2017 18:59

Dot you must know some fantastic old people!!

Borntoflyinfirst · 23/07/2017 19:02

My dd is 12. She has very fair skin. I asked her on one of the warm days the other day why she didn't have shorts on. Answer: my legs are too white. Have you ever felt that your legs being so pale makes you stick out like a sore thumb and feel awful? I have. So I offered her my very pale leg makeup. Washes off. Shows up straight away. Barely there actually but my god I know it makes me feel confident so I can't exactly tell her no. And why would I? So much better than trying to burn her precious skin in the hope of getting a 'real' tan.

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