Genuinely don't know if I'm being unreasonable.
I've been with my husband for 20 years, married for 11 years and he can be a bit stressful about money, for example asking me how much I've spent if I've been out for a meal with a friend as soon as I walk in the door, rather than asking if I've enjoyed the meal or if I show him something I'm planning to buy for myself and I ask his opinion on it, he will ask how much it is before he will give me his opinion (we have separate finances by the way, this isn't his money I'm spending, though he earns three times more than I do, as I've always worked around the kids) if
we get a rare night out together (child free) the first thing he will tell me in the morning is how much he spent the night before and he is visibly gutted if it's a bit more expensive than he thought it would be.
Last week he came to me and said he might go to an event with some friends and asked if I was busy that weekend so he could go, it's an all day thing. I said no I wasn't busy and off he went to organise it.
Today his dad let slip this event was going to cost my husband £150 to attend (ticket price) my knee jerk reaction is to be pissed off, first of all he didn't mention how much it was on purpose as he knows if the tables were turned, he would be disgusted that I was spending that much on a day getting pissed with my mates and this is before buying any alcohol at the event, so this is just the bottom line price, it could go into the hundreds.
This isn't a thing he usually attends as he has a season ticket for football that costs him a small fortune plus with some away games and attending all the games (eating and drinking there) it's pretty expensive but I don't moan about it or even ask how much he spends, I just let him get on with it.
But he is trying to make more of an effort with friends so decided he will attend this.
I really don't begrudge him a day out with his mates, I'm actually looking forward to the peace but this one rule for me and another for him has made me irrationally pissed off and I can't shake it off.
I'm happy for the mumsnet jury to tell me to get myself together as I'm sure you will 
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