I'm going to sound like a heartless bitch I know but please be kind, this comes from a genuine place.
DH's father passed away from a long-term illness 10 months ago. Since that day we have rallied around mil to make sure she's ok. DH sorted out all the paperwork after he lost his dad so she didn't have all that to deal with and we let her stay with us each weekend so she didn't get lonely (she meets up with her friends in the week and babysits for sil).
Now 10 months later she is still staying with us every single weekend. Mil phones up nearly every other day with a job she wants dh to do for her so he has to drop everything and go round there. A lot of the time the jobs aren't necessary or someone else has offered to do it but she wants dh to do it. She comes on holidays with us too. When she's here she commands dh's attention while I end up just looking after our children. I feel like the au pair rather than his wife!
I'm not heartless, I can understand that her soulmate has gone and she must feel so lost and lonely. I can't imagine the void that's in her life forever and the heartache she feels. But I miss having Saturday evenings with my husband so much, it was the only night we really got together and it's becoming so hard not to resent her constant demands. DH always defends her but I know she's manipulating him and his good nature. How do I handle this without causing upset?
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Midge1978 · 22/07/2017 19:09
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