To have had enough of my very rude neighbour.

[missmove38]

I rent..I've posted about this before and left as took the ignore route but it hasn't helped infact she's got worse..but am struggling how to compile a polite letter that makes it clear this woman is out of order. The agency have suggested I do this once before they intervene.

Spaces opposite each house..her and next door have cordoned theirs off with chains and posts which is fine. If anyone so much as shops outside now she either comes out or screams out of her window.
I've had family and parents arrive to be greeted very rudely by her even though they've stopped for 2 secs while I move my car so they can go on my drive.

Help in writing a short but sweet note please!

[DrHorribletookmycherry]

I wouldn't bother writing a letter. She's impatient and territorial. Just calmly respond back to her fisheife shrieking that the car is in the process of being moved. And when she shrieks do it slowly. Go outside. Look around. Calmly walk over so as not to be shouting across bonus points for getting out of the car to do this. Even a monkey could work out it takes longer when there's shrieking then.
She sounds like she needs gold stars to function as a normal adult who can notice what is happening.

[missmove38]

I don't see her as I'm in my house. I have children dropped at different times (not loads) and parents go again. She's had a go at them before I know about it..I'm worried she will put them off using me. I would leave it and have done for months but feel she needs to be told she's rude

[Trollspoopglitter]

Don't have your visitors in her space. Not even because it's just for 5 minutes - because it really doesn't take 2 seconds now does it. You're being impolite by doing so and complaining she's rude because she won't tolerate you impoliteness. What's worse, YOU KEEP PARKING IN HER SPACE!

[Trollspoopglitter]

Oh it just gets better ... A stream of visitors to yours and she's fed up with them all parking at hers. When you just need to do the polite, obvious thing: KEEP YOUR DRIVE EMPTY for YOUR visitor.

[MadMags]

Just don't have people blocking her space?

[Dadstheworld]

Are the spaces actual designated spaces?

[FeralBeryl]

any chance of a teeny weeny diagram OP?
Right - are they stopping 'even for a minute' in her designated space? If so YABU. You're on a par with the school run driveway blockers.
If they're just stopping in the road waiting for you to move - YANBU.

But if you know there will be a stream of dropper offerers- why not park at the end of the road yourself to keep a space for them.

[Alittlepotofrosie]

Stop encouraging your visitors to park in her space then

[unfortunateevents]

Why do you have to move your car so they can get on your drive? If your drive is big enough for more than one car, then park yours so a second car can drive on. If it is not big enough, where do you then park your car when you move? And why can your visitors not park there instead? Unless you spend your days staring out of the front window, it obviously takes more than 2 secs for your visitors to arrive, notify you of their arrival, you to come out and move your car and them to move into the space. How often is this happening?

Not saying that your neighbour is not being unreasonable, but you are minimising the situation and you need to be truthful if you are expecting this to be resolved. However, I don't know what you think the agency is going to achieve by writing to her? Is her house rented/owned? Through the same agents?

[faithinthesound]

Any time someone says "well, it's only for two seconds", it never, ever, EVER is.

If you don't have the right to park there, you don't EVER have the right to park there, especially if she has form for getting upset about it. And well she should. You do not know, and cannot know, if one of your "two second" visitors is going to prevent her from doing something she needs to do. Likely she's afraid to go out at times, for fear she's going to come back to her spot taken by one of your "two second" visitors. This assumption comes from seeing many, many posts from the point of the view whose spot is taken by someone else's "two second" visitors who overstay their welcome.

Don't write a letter. You are the one in the wrong. As a PP has suggested, it is your responsibility to keep your drive clear for your visitors, not inconvenience your neighbors to save yourself a bit of a kerfuffle. That's selfish, and unreasonable. And you ARE inconveniencing her, however reasonable you think you're being.

[unfortunateevents]

You talk about parents being put off using you - are you a childminder? if so, you absolutely need to sort out your parking! This is obviously something which is happening on a daily basis!

[toosexyforyahshirt]

If they are actually allocated parking spaces and not public then you need to stop people using her space at all, even for a minute.
Are you running a business from your home?

[SoupDragon]

Am I reading a different OP? If the neighbours space is chained off, the visitors can't be parking on it. Not sure where the "stream of visitors" comes from either. Unless the op is actually the old woman who lived in a shoe.

Unless the neighbour is actually trying to get out at the times someone's briefly stopped in front then they really need to calm down and stop being twattish.

[MadMags]

Neighbour is likely completely overreacting.

But if I was trying to run abusiness and was genuinely worried this would have an adverse affect, I just wouldn't have people blocking her space!

So, OP instead of waiting until people arrive, having them block neighbour's access and waiting while she moves her car, could just have them block her own space or already have moved her car in preparation.

[missmove38]

Ok so I haven't read all the replies yet but maybe I've written it wrong..no one is blocking her space??!! They are pulling up by mine and she doesn't like it..just to clarify I wouldn't let anyone do that nor would I be posting!!!

[missmove38]

And we're taking 2 parents..for literally 2 minutes..she is totally overreacting. She's does it to everyone not just me, non of the neighbours speak to her!

[missmove38]

AND!! I have 2 spaces..sometimes my 2nd space isn't accessible (due to the other neighbours parking awkwardly that I don't mind) so they park across my drive (my main space) not affecting anyone but me!

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

Just let your clients//parents know that you have a batshit neighbour, and make it clear to them where it is ok to park (across your drive) and where it is not (across her drive)
Make light of it.

Or threaten to report her to the police for harrassment.

What is the "agency" of which you speak?
If it's the CIA, good for you!

[GavelRavel]

OP are you achildminder is that what you're saying?

[Troels]

Oh no you're a childminder, we have one by us, her parents dropping off always seem to co-inside with me trying to leave for work and blocks my drive and 2 others I don't say anything to her she has no control of their idiotic parking. I do politely ask them to move and let me out if they pull up as we are obviously trying to leave. But if we aren't going anywhere I have no care about them parking badly for 5 minutes.
Works both ways, we blocked the whole street getting deliveries recently no one was all hot about that either.

[BishopBrennansArse]

OP has clarified - they're not in neighbour's space, they're waiting in the road...

[Pollaidh]

Picked up DS (3)'s trousers from the wash basket, thought 'crikey, he must be carrying lead weights around'. Lo and behold, he actually had weights, kgs marked as well. Clearly snaffled them from the nursery weighing station.

What was more worrying was that he'd been through 2 airport metal detectors that day and nothing had been picked up.

[Pollaidh]

Whoops, was meant to go in the sausage in his pocket thread.

[bellabasset]

We need a diagram. If your adjoining neighbours have blocked off their spaces outside their homes how does it happen that neighbours have parked awkwardly? Could you put a chain across yours so your visitors can undo it to park and replace it when they leave.

Perhaps you should put up CCTV so you can monitor the parking situation, for example, you say you are unable to see visitors or parents arrive so do they get out of their car, ring your doorbell and wait for you to move? Or do they sound their car horn and you go out to move your car onto the drive, which sounds as though you have a drive in addition to the parking spaces.

Your neighbour may be batshit but if there is noise several times on a daily basis does she have a point? If your spaces, which are used regularly, are being blocked then you need to tell the neighbours not to park or impede your space as you need them to be available for your parents/visitors. If you can paint a sign to say your spaces need to be kept clear.

[missmove38]

Clearly some aren't reading the thread properly!
Yes I childmind..don't think there's any need for the 'oh god' remark..were not all selfish!!

Non of my parents block anyone's drive but mine..that's the point of the post! I have 1 parent some mornings and another 2 afternoons a week..the rest I pick up and drop off so little disturbance. Any friends use my spare space or I'll move my car into it and they use my drive. One of my neighbours has 4 cars and carers in and out numerous times a day..although it doesn't bother me (and I'm happy for them to use my spare space) she's fallen out with them too..infact she hollers at anyone who dares stop!