More of a WWYD but posting here for traffic. Regular poster but nc for this in case the relevant parties are on here. Cancel the cheque, penis beaker etc.
DH and I have 3 DCs all under 6 and have set up our wills so that should anything happen to both of us leaving the children without their parents, a family friend and her DH will become their legal guardians. They will be financially taken care of should we die and our friends who parent similarly and share the same values will love them fiercely and raise them as their own. We have a reciprocal arrangement in that if anything happened to our friends, their kids would also come to us. It's a relief to know that above all they would be loved and cared for and safe.
For various reasons we are adamant that we do not want our kids to go to either my or DH's family though there would ideally be lots of contact. It came to light recently though that one of my family members seems to think of my kids as "her own". To me, these are just words and not backed up by any action. I really would not want her to influence them, let alone raise them.
This has got me thinking. Do we make it known now what are plans are in case the worst happens and our friends and children don't have the additional trauma of having to deal with that? Or given that we're not ill and the chances of something happening are minimal, should I just stay quiet knowing that it's unlikely to be an issue?
I'm not normally fatalistic like this but since this conversation with my relative, it's really been on my mind. WWYD?
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Would you let family know that you DON'T want them raising your children if you die?
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TempUser1234 · 17/07/2017 23:11
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