MIL and FIL like to entertain, and often either have friends of theirs over to dinner or throw a big garden party type thing with aunts uncles and cousins of DH, so say 20-30 people.
These are pleasant but can last 6 hours +, which I find wearing, especially as they include a half hour drive each way.
We also see them a lot - like every two weeks a lot for this and that. They are very nice and all, but I'm a massive introvert and really don't find socialising the most fun, so am often found to be thinking 'oh HURRAY, another birthday/event' - there's always some sort of thing they want to do. I work full time, I like my chill out time, you know? But hey ho, a first world problem, nothing to get het up about.
However, I am presently a bit miffed, maybe you can tell me if AIBU? we got married a few months back and received photos recently, four elderly relations couldn't attend the wedding, MIL suggests we come around and show elderly relatives the pictures - fair enough, it would be a nice thing to do for them, will obviously be a low key thing, not a massive fuss etc - all fine. We have a small 1 bed flat at the aforementioned distance with stairs the elderly people find hard so it was decided it would be at theirs.
Can you guess what actually happens? Yup, entire extended family were invited by MIL (without asking us, just informing DH the night before) so it was the usual 25 people, MIL and FIL hosting with food/drink, 6+ hours of socialising centred around our wedding.
AIBU to feel a little bit that liberties have been taken a bit, here? I just felt a bit on display - when I thanked MIL (as you have to, don't you?) she said 'Oh you're worth it', which has annoyed me a bit - I don't think it really was 'for me', and if it was, perhaps it would have been a good idea to ask if we'd actually want a massive thing before just arranging it?
It's no biggie, but AIBU to be slightly peeved or am I a miserable caaah?
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pandarific · 17/07/2017 13:06
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