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would it BU to put this on party invites??

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stressedbeyond123 Tue 11-Jul-17 12:59:49

DD is having a gymnastics party this year - it has been stressed that there are a strict number of children/coaches ratio. The party is booked for 16 kids, and they have all accepted.

Is it ok to put this on the back do you think

"Whilst younger/older siblings are more than welcome to come along, unfortunately they will be unable to participate in the gymnastics due to a restriction on numbers - they will however be more than welcome to sit in the viewing room with the grown ups when this is taking place, and join in with the party food afterwards"

IAmTheWorwax Tue 11-Jul-17 13:00:47

I can't see why not.

Namechangetempissue Tue 11-Jul-17 13:02:05

Sounds fine to me!

BikeRunSki Tue 11-Jul-17 13:03:43


biffyboom Tue 11-Jul-17 13:03:57

I think that is fine. Better to make people aware before they come that children that aren't actually named invitees will not be allowed in the gym.

Snap8TheCat Tue 11-Jul-17 13:05:33

Have you sent two lots of invitations then? I'm confused confused

Acatalepsy Tue 11-Jul-17 13:06:10

I think it's perfectly fine, some parents might translate as "please bring all the siblings for food"!
I don't think you can be any nicer than you are, so I hope no-one can have issues with it.

CoffeeAndEnnui Tue 11-Jul-17 13:06:33

That sounds fine. Maybe use "won't be able to take part in the gymnastics" and "they are, however, welcome..." to make the language slightly less formal?

And I would be inclined to say "due to the venue's restriction on numbers" so no one feels compelled to negotiate!

HouseworkIsASin10 Tue 11-Jul-17 13:11:24

Sounds fine. There is no confusion then if somebody kicks off that little jimmy can't join in with his sister.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Tue 11-Jul-17 13:16:06

Good idea.

Starlight2345 Tue 11-Jul-17 13:20:56

Assuming they are old enough to be left. I would simply let them know .That siblings will not be able to take part.. It is one of my pet hates when siblings try and join in. Catering for 16 children in plenty

stressedbeyond123 Tue 11-Jul-17 13:21:02

Thank you guys - i have no problem with siblings coming along, just want them to know in a nice way that they won't be able to take part in the actual gymnastics part of it!

@Snap8TheCat - no only one lot of invitations, but a lot of the ones i have sent i know have younger siblings, who have been brought along to parties - which hasn't been a problem when numbers are not limited!


Robinkitty Tue 11-Jul-17 13:23:39

It's fine, but... some people may interpret that as "bring siblings to enjoy the party food"

BitOutOfPractice Tue 11-Jul-17 13:24:38

I'm confused - did you put that on the invites you sent? Or wish you had?

It's fine BTW

stressedbeyond123 Tue 11-Jul-17 13:28:53

sorry should have explained - i have spoken to the parents of the children attending, told them the date (next saturday) and they have all said they are coming - proper invites are going out today!! x

anna1313 Tue 11-Jul-17 13:29:41

I think that is totally fine and in fact quite helpful to the parents who can then work out for themselves if they want to bring siblings or not.

Twinkletowedelephant Tue 11-Jul-17 13:36:28

Great we don't do pay per child parties anymore as so many turned up with both older and younger siblings, expecting to join in

HotelEuphoria Tue 11-Jul-17 13:39:16

And as per another thread a couple of weeks ago, don't forget to put "siblings will not get a party bag to take home either" grin

5moreminutes Tue 11-Jul-17 13:42:28

It is an excellent idea, but as others say the bit about the food might encourage people to bring siblings for the food part when they would otherwise have left them elsewhere! I'd only mention that siblings are welcome to watch in the viewing area with parents - then you aren't making it impossible for those without childcare but aren't actively encouraging all siblings to attend.

Also is drop off OK - do you want parents to stay and watch?

I'd never have chosen to take siblings to a party one of my children was invited to, but there seems to be a trend now to demand parents stay and take responsibility for their own child, which makes it difficult if you have other children too young to leave and their other parent is working/ has another commitment or whatever.

stressedbeyond123 Tue 11-Jul-17 13:45:20

ooooh good idea 5moreminutes - i might say that they can be dropped off and picked up when party finishes...i'm sure that will make life a lot easier for a lot of the mums! x

stressedbeyond123 Tue 11-Jul-17 13:45:56

Thank you @HotelEuphoria - i never thought of that either!!!

EezerGoode Tue 11-Jul-17 13:46:44

You only need to feed the party kids..way to nice

MyPatronusIsAUnicorn Tue 11-Jul-17 13:58:14

Personally I think it could make people confused (it often doesn't take much) and I'd say due to restrictions on numbers, siblings cannot be accommodated. If anyone approaches you and says they don't have childcare, you can always say other child is welcome to wait in viewing room with the parent but I wouldn't advertise it as a done deal. I put something similar on invites once as one family were notorious for rocking up with invited child, both parents and 2 siblings who were fully encouraged to join in with everything and eat loads of food before invited guests had their chance.

RiverTam Tue 11-Jul-17 14:03:10

Just say 'sorry, no siblings'. I've always done this.

MistressDeeCee Tue 11-Jul-17 14:18:17

Yes its fine to say that. Also I presume there's Insurance involved? So you have to state something, if a child takes part that isn't supposed to and is then injured its going to be a problem so, coach will have that in mind too

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