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AIBU?

Or was this other woman at the Summer Fair

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PTANameChange · 08/07/2017 19:42

I'm baffled as to whether or not I'm unreasonable. I don't think I am but prepared to hear all viewpoints.

I am a relatively new PTA chair, having taken over from a truly wonderful one in September. Historically, the chair has arranged the annual summer fun day, but this year the committee decided that it would be better that a different member took this responsibility as both would be too much. As such a SFD coordinator was assigned.

Today was the day. Unfortunately due to my husbands unchangeable work commitments, I wasn't able to volunteer for the whole day, but I did help last night, and at other preparations in the last few weeks. I also did manage to get my parents to take the DC for 1.5 hours so I could help for a little while. All the stalls were manned, so the coordinator asked me to 'float' and help where needed. I then spent that 1.5 hours traipsing around making sure stalls had everything they needed and asking if they needed help - nobody needed help. I asked a lot.

Then my DP had to leave so I had three Dc by himself so couldn't do much more than running stuff about, but still offered.

We hadn't had lunch, due to being there early to deliver stuff, so I got the DC a burger each from the BBQ and went to sit down with them and eat. Then they wanted to run around a bit and play so I let them and was watching (and still keeping an eye on stalls just in case). I was then approached by a lady who helps regularly for the PTA and was on the BBQ. She started shouting at me and was really in my face shouting about 'are you even on a stall? What have you even done for this whole day anyway?' She was very aggressive and intimidating. I didn't even get the chance to explain that I have:
Helped with donation organising.
Run around like a blue arsed fly making sure everyone was OK.
Stayed until 6pm helping set up last night. I had to leave then to pick up a tombola for them to use tomorrow.
Paid £40 of my own money, that still hasn't been reimbursed, for a lottery license. Chased this constantly as they were so slow.
Donated fuck loads.
Spent fuck loads.
Done several posters/newsletters.

I am not the Summer Fun Day coordinator!! I am doing the year 6 leavers BBQ. Well I was. That's in addition to, drafting minutes/agendas, helping at every single disco, helping for all Christmas shopping day prep and on the day.

All whilst parenting 4 children, three of whom have some element of additional needs that have required multiple school appointments, referrals etc. I have also had to help my sick mother, who has a brain tumour, with a 3 year old at home most days. Oh and actually sleep at some point.

Is it me or is it completely fucking unreasonable of her to A) question my contribution B) scream at me in front of stallholders and my own children C) wander off, clearly slagging me off to all and sundry.

What the actual fuck? Would I be justified in quitting now. I am not fucking working with that. Would you go in and explain all this to the headteacher on Monday? (I wasn't approaching her with it today, what with how a public event is completely the wrong fucking time to do that!!) I'm livid.

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bumblingmum · 08/07/2017 19:56

It's obvious she was unreasonable. If she thought you were slacking, then she should have approached you totally differently. She was completely inappropriate.