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To think fidget toys are unfair

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RantsAndBants Fri 07-Jul-17 21:38:36

Most school have banned them or confiscated them which is unfair on the children who actually need them for things like anxiety,self harm distraction, ADHD etc.

Now it's just a trend and kids can't get away with using their fidget cubes discreetly .

LuxuryDrinks Fri 07-Jul-17 21:40:07

Fidgeting is never discrete...

But I do get your point.

SmitheringSmithison Fri 07-Jul-17 21:41:00

Our school have banned them however children who have a genuine such as adhd, asd etc are allowed them no questions asked. My dd has two that she keeps in her book bag for when she needs them (which the school actually gave her) and she often wears her chewable bracelet or necklace-again no issues.

tissuesosoft Fri 07-Jul-17 21:42:13

We've banned them except for those who actually need them- permission given by SENCO/HOY. However even then they have to be kept out of sight so on their lap or pocket)

FourEyesGood Fri 07-Jul-17 21:42:24

Children with ADHD or any other real need are allowed to use them (at my school, they have a laminated pass -with their name on - to show any member of staff who challenges them it tells them to put it away). If they're not allowed and they have a genuine need, complain.

halcyondays Fri 07-Jul-17 21:42:38

Ours haven't banned them entirely, instead there are rules on using them, e.g only bring one , use in class only, at teachers' discretion.

CorbynsBumFlannel Fri 07-Jul-17 21:44:16

If children that actually benefit from using fidgets in an unobtrusive way aren't allowed them then that's a shame but our school has just banned the spinners as they are an absolute nuisance and distraction to everyone in the class. My son has autism and the chance of him concentrating on anything other than the fidget spinner whilst playing with one would be nil. I'm pretty sceptical about any therapeutic benefit they are supposed to have. Fidgets that are quiet and kept in pockets are still allowed for the children that benefit from them.

19lottie82 Fri 07-Jul-17 21:45:24

There's no proof they are beneficial to kids with these conditions. Im pretty sceptical myself.

Pengggwn Fri 07-Jul-17 21:46:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

RantsAndBants Fri 07-Jul-17 21:51:27

My niece has been banned from using her fidget cube . She only ever uses it under the desk but it's been banned for everyone and despite and email going out about her using it,most teachers challenge her .

She gets very anxious and overwhelmed. Fidgeting helps distract her x

muckypup73 Fri 07-Jul-17 21:52:34

Oddly enough, these children managed fine before fidget spinners, try put a bit of blue tack in his pocket, works just as well and more discreet and whats more does not distract the whole class. I truly belive they should be banned in all schools.

RantsAndBants Fri 07-Jul-17 21:54:10

She's been using her cube and another toy she was given since primary school . Blue tack gets lost and hairbands dong really work for her

MaisyPops Fri 07-Jul-17 21:54:12

No proof they actually work.

99.9% of kids who suddenly feel the need to have one don't need them and use them to distract and it's a ridiculous excuse not to work.

For those children who find fighting helpful, there are many unobtrusive ways to address that and help without letting shitty little faddy toys into the classroom.

And don't get me started on the sudden increase in parents who've decided that their child's behaviour is some undiagnosed need that can be solved with a fashionable toy. Totally takes the mick when there are parents of children with actual needs struggling to get the correct support.

BlackeyedSusan Fri 07-Jul-17 21:54:50

You need to ask them why it is an unreasonable adjustment for her condition to have a discreet, quiet fidget toy under the desk.

muckypup73 Fri 07-Jul-17 21:57:19

MaisyPops, go maisy, well done you, for stating the actual fact.

RantsAndBants Fri 07-Jul-17 22:01:59

They said It's because if they allow one student then they'd have to allow everyone else

BewareOfDragons Fri 07-Jul-17 22:03:08

There are more sensible things for class use for those that truly need them.

PurplePeppers Fri 07-Jul-17 22:03:35

Maisy seeing that this is a child who has been usingbthe same fidget tout for years, since primary, and much before they become a trend, I suspect that, for this particular child, it helps her alleviate her anxiety.

Maybe this is not working for every child, or not enough to be considered 'efficient' in research terms. But it works for that child.

If that you in the hands of that particular child has never been an issue before (and before it was a trend), why not leaving her alone??

PurpleDaisies Fri 07-Jul-17 22:03:57

We have other fidget toys for children that they are appropriate for. Those cubes and spinners are really distracting for other children who have to hear clicking/whirring.

CorbynsBumFlannel Fri 07-Jul-17 22:04:13

So she is allowed it then? Is it actually being confiscated or are teachers just checking if she's meant to have it?

Fergus425 Fri 07-Jul-17 22:05:51

99.9% of kids who suddenly feel the need to have one don't need them and use them to distract

Link please...

RantsAndBants Fri 07-Jul-17 22:07:38

It's being confiscated. I could understand the clicky noises for the cube is annoying but her other toy is tiny and makes no sound . My Dsis has told the school about it and all her class teachers have been emailed

RantsAndBants Fri 07-Jul-17 22:08:08

She's been allowed it in primary school and in her secondary school but as soon as they've become a trend she isn't

ineedamoreadultieradult Fri 07-Jul-17 22:09:14

My son has a tic disorder and if one more person tells me it will be solved by buying him a fidget spinner I may stick the fidget spinner somewhere unpleasant. Fidget spinners are just a novelty. People who can benefit from fidgeting to help them concentrate etc have had various different things at their disposal for years. In my eyes a fidget spinner is just a toy.

Corcory Fri 07-Jul-17 22:27:31

As the mum of two children with diagnosed ADHD one of whom also has ASD. I can categorically say that a fidget toy definitely helps our DS with his anxiety and keeps him calm especially in large crowded environments like school. Our DD doesn't tend to use fidget toys but she does doodle and draw constantly when in class. she is allowed to do this as it has been proved that she is listening and it controls her anxiety.

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