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GinSwigmore Fri 07-Jul-17 21:11:42

Four year old in nursery allowed to sleep on sofa in the quiet corner from 11-3pm
Older sibling claims others were told to be quiet as they didn't want him to wake.
Also claims saw no one attempt to wake him.
He therefore was starving when picked up at 3.10 because he had "slept through lunch"
A warm lunch that I pay for (£3.20)
How would you have reacted to this as a mum and how would you have approached this as a nursery nurse/childminder?

GinSwigmore Fri 07-Jul-17 21:12:31

Thanks in advance flowers

Viviene Fri 07-Jul-17 21:14:49

Why would you wake a sleeping child? Could they not feed him when he woke up?

swapsicles Fri 07-Jul-17 21:15:18

That's a long time to sleep, dd would do that if she was coming down with something.
I hope they tried gently to wake him to check he was ok but apart from that if he's asleep all that time then he may just need it

requestingsunshine Fri 07-Jul-17 21:15:56

I would not have been happy. An hour maximum,if that, at age 4 and he should have been woken up for lunch! What were they thinking? Will he sleep tonight or be up until all hours do you think?

LongLiveTheChief Fri 07-Jul-17 21:16:30

Personally, I'd really question their abilities as childcare providers. Surely it's simple to assume a child should have a meal and therefore be woken up in good time to be awake enough to want to eat a meal?

I certainly would expect my sons nursery to have fed him, although he gave up his day time naps at 18 months and definitely would not have a nap at 4 years old.

Did they tell you he hadn't eaten? Z

babybubblescomingsoon Fri 07-Jul-17 21:16:53

Was he particularly tired that morning ? And what is their usual policy on sleeping? Maybe on Monday just say that DS was very hungry on Friday and seeing as your also paying for the lunches you'd like him to eat next time. It's not acceptable to let a child go all day without food, even if he was tired. sad

Callamia Fri 07-Jul-17 21:17:04

I'd think it was v unusual for my preschooler, and wonder if they were unwell.

A four-hour nap seems a bit much during the day, quiet time for pre-schoolers at my son's nursery is more like 90-120mins. I think, if my son fell asleep at 11, and didn't wake for lunch, I'd expect a call from nursery to ask if he was feeling ok/had any sleep last night.

Pengggwn Fri 07-Jul-17 21:17:12

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Sittingonthefence83 Fri 07-Jul-17 21:17:24

Definitely think they should have woken him up for lunch. 4 hours is an extremely long nap for a 4 year old!

FamaLamaDingDong Fri 07-Jul-17 21:17:53

I wouldn't ask them to wake a sleeping child unless it was specifically requested but they should have kept the food to the side to eat once awake. Did DC have food before collection?

BrutusMcDogface Fri 07-Jul-17 21:18:07

I absolutely would have expected him to be fed! They could have kept his lunch for him. I was furious once when my dd slept through lunch therefore didn't get her food; I told them how unimpressed I was so it never happened again! They kept her food for her.

Ime if my child had slept for 4 hours (4 hours!!) in the day, they were either ill or up all night afterwards. I would therefore expect them to be woken up after maximum two hours, and certainly wouldn't have been keeping the other children quiet.

00100001 Fri 07-Jul-17 21:18:32

Ask the teacher?

PurplePeppers Fri 07-Jul-17 21:31:33

Yep I would also wonder if the child wasn't coming down with something.
At home, I would have left him sleep. So I would expect the same at nursery.
Yes there is the cost of a meal. But is £3 so important compare to his own wellbeing/sleep?

PurplePeppers Fri 07-Jul-17 21:33:10

I also suspect that they had just wine him up when you arrived if he slept until 3.00pm and you picked him up at 3.10pm.
No way they would have had time to give him food (that might have been out aside for him)

flupi Fri 07-Jul-17 21:35:24

When/ where was this. It's been very hot lately which makes people sleepy.

Crumbs1 Fri 07-Jul-17 21:40:15

No,winning is there? Either bad nursery made him miss lunch or bad nursery woke him up and he was crying for ages.

Iamastonished Fri 07-Jul-17 21:40:35

It isn't hot everywhere flupi. We don't all live in London hmm

I must admit that a 4 year old needing 4 hours sleep in the middle of the day would worry me. Is he coming down with something?

luckylucky24 Fri 07-Jul-17 21:43:13

I wouldn't be worried about lunch, he will survive skipping one meal. I wouldn't be happy they let him sleep for that long.

Nicky333 Fri 07-Jul-17 21:43:29

Iamastonished. What's you don't live in London? The rest of us on here do. You must be the only one not in London.

Only joking, I live in Yorkshire!

Nicky333 Fri 07-Jul-17 21:44:09

*what, not what's. Stupid iPad.

Stopandlook Fri 07-Jul-17 21:47:55

Yes they should have woken him up or called you for advice. I hope he's gone down for you ok OP?

RainaBaina Fri 07-Jul-17 21:48:41

I'm more surprised that your prime concern here isn't why your 4 year old needed to sleep for so long during the day, rather than why he wasn't woken.

There was clearly something wrong. That's either a child who didn't sleep last night or a child who is ill.

I presume you're going to drip feed the info now...

MrsHathaway Fri 07-Jul-17 21:49:03

Unless you'd asked them to let him sleep I'd expect them to have made a serious attempt to wake him after an hour which would be in time for lunch even if late.

If they couldn't wake a 4yo then they should have rung you (or listed contact) as there must have been an assumption he wasn't well.

SoupDragon Fri 07-Jul-17 21:52:43

How old is the older sibling?

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