Really long, sorry! I previously posted this a few days ago on chat but only got one reply (and thank you to that poster!) but things are getting worse and I just found out that it's a ten week wait for counselling through work, so am reposting here for traffic. I know that's a bit unreasonable in and of itself, sorry!
I have a history of depression/anxiety - mostly low level, but around four years ago I had a very bad episode lasting about a year. I eventually felt better after some counselling and medication (citalopram). I would say I've been doing pretty well for about three years, but the memory of how things got (I had a period of suicidal thoughts and there were a few months where things were really bleak) has really stuck with me and I've always been so scared of going back to that place.
I've had three (early, obviously) miscarriages in the last five months. The last was about three weeks ago and I'm waiting for testing, but in the knowledge that it's likely they won't find any particular cause. I am not coping well at all. It feels like I can feel the anxiety and depression creeping back on me but I don't know how to stop it. My sleeping patterns have gone funny again (sleeping too much but never feeling rested) and I'm very tearful. I go between a complete lack of motivation about my work and then moments of horrible, gripping panic about what I haven't got done. I lost my temper about absolutely nothing with my (lovely, patient) husband on Saturday. I can tell that he's scared that I'll go back to that really bad place, too - and I wonder whether he's willing to do it again (I wouldn't blame him if not).
I feel so stuck and panicky. Although we're currently taking a break from TTC I do want to get back to it as soon as we can after testing, which means I don't want to take antidepressants - but then I also know it's not a good idea to get pregnant with untreated depression! I don't know what to do. I have tried to exercise but I know I haven't been disciplined enough about it (and I only stopped bleeding last week, which put me off doing anything but walking). Having a break from work isn't an option as I've been so unproductive recently, and I also don't know if it helps to keep busy, anyway. Last time it felt like bad depression just crept up on me - this time I feel like I can see it coming but feel helpless! I'm also scared that because of my past experiences I'm making this bigger than it has to be and so almost bringing it on myself. I'm looking for advice, similar experiences and maybe a little bit of hand-holding...
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LisaSimpsonsbff · 05/07/2017 13:22
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