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To think my friend was a beep or am I overreacting?

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Whitlandcarm Sat 01-Jul-17 18:50:45

My partner and I were going out one evening and had booked a hotel etc. We didn't fancy going out in the city together as a couple so asked around and found that my friend would be in town. I turned down politely offers of going out with other people as thought it would be nice to go out with her as I hadn't seen her since I travelled 4hrs for her birthday a few months back.

I had agreed with that friend that we'd all meet for drinks then go out afterwards together. Sure sure, all good and agreed even on the very day saying how excited she was to meet up.

Partner and I send her a text asking when would she and her friend (who I've met) would like to come for a drink. Or we could join their plans. Read, and no reply, despite posting all evening including on a whatsapp group we're both in.

This left DH and I to go alone out which of course was fine, but I was just pissed off that she would do that. We wanted a nice relaxing night out with friends.

This friend was meant to be coming to stay in a holiday home (UK) that we're renting for a night or so. She's muffed that one.

How shall I go about this?
I feel like that I value her more than she values me if you get me?

Sorry needed to rant sad

Sparklingbrook Sat 01-Jul-17 18:52:40

We didn't fancy going out in the city together as a couple

Why not? confused

Questioningeverything Sat 01-Jul-17 18:55:38

When was this? Has the friend not been in touch since?

JeffVadersMum Sat 01-Jul-17 18:56:28

So not the point of the thread sparkling..

They wanted to go out with friends, not as a couple

Have you heard from her at all? Does she have 'form'for this?

Treysanatomy Sat 01-Jul-17 18:57:02

What the fuck is a beep?

Whitlandcarm Sat 01-Jul-17 18:57:11

The city was quite busy with young lads etc drunk so felt a bit unsafe, I suppose. You know sometimes you just want to go out with friends for a change?

This was last night, and no she hasn't.

Sparklingbrook Sat 01-Jul-17 18:57:36

I was curious because if I had booked a night out and a hotel with DH I wouldn't want random friends tagging along. Sorry if I wasn't allowed to ask the question though Jeff.

TheCutOfYourJib Sat 01-Jul-17 18:58:08

What's a beep?

Sparklingbrook Sat 01-Jul-17 18:58:45

I think it's a swear Cut.

Whitlandcarm Sat 01-Jul-17 18:59:21

Sorry yes a swear grin

TheCutOfYourJib Sat 01-Jul-17 18:59:36

You felt unsafe with your dh????
I would be v pissed off with my friend though if she did that, v rude.

TheCutOfYourJib Sat 01-Jul-17 19:00:09

A swear word? You know you are allowed to swear?

NotAnotherUserName5 Sat 01-Jul-17 19:02:15

Maybe her battery died, she lost her phone etc?

Why do you jump to the conclusion she's a beep? Has she form for this?

Whitlandcarm Sat 01-Jul-17 19:03:45

Not a husband
Well tbh I think twat may suffice then!!

Notanother, no, as I said in op she was posting all evening.

BabsGanoush Sat 01-Jul-17 19:06:16

This is odd, are you swingers?

GreenTulips Sat 01-Jul-17 19:07:03

I think she was rude - no excuse

Do they think you can't see her FB posts?

Tell her to jog on

MeanAger Sat 01-Jul-17 19:09:11

Is it not quite odd to book a hotel in a city with your partner for a night out and then ask around to see if anyone fancies entertaining joining you for the evening? confused surely if you go to the effort and expense of booking a hotel in a city it's for a specific reason. I.e; you already have plans to meet friends in the city or you and DH fancy some couple time together. This all sounds very odd. Do you do that often? Do you think your friend is trying to tell you she doesn't want to play gooseberry anymore?

Anotherdayanotherdollar Sat 01-Jul-17 19:10:13

She's a "beep"??

Calm down there!

Sparklingbrook Sat 01-Jul-17 19:10:13

That's what I was thinking Mean.

LazyDailyMailJournos Sat 01-Jul-17 19:11:30

To think my friend was a beep

You can say 'cunt' you know.

Nikephorus Sat 01-Jul-17 19:12:15

Not a husband jib...
What's DH if not a husband?

TheCutOfYourJib Sat 01-Jul-17 19:12:46

I thought you said dh?
When you say beep are you wanting to say bitch or cunt or is beep an actual word for something?

FeckinCrutches Sat 01-Jul-17 19:13:05

I'd feel really awkward going out with a couple if they were away for the night.
Maybe her friend wanted a gossipy night out on the pull and you two tagging along would have ruined that.
Rude of your friend not to text you back but she was probably put in an awkward position by both of you.

MeanAger Sat 01-Jul-17 19:14:05

Partner and I send her a text asking when would she and her friend (who I've met) would like to come for a drink. Or we could join their plans.

I think this is key. It suggests you were aware she already had plans for the evening and maybe your plan for her to come to you wasn't as set in stone as you have made out. It sounds like she said she would be in X city and could meet up if you wanted as you would be there too. You have taken it as "I will come to you and spend the evening with you" whereas it sounds like it was more a "I'll be in the city, if you want to join me and my friends" kind of thing.

VeryButchyRestingFace Sat 01-Jul-17 19:14:59

It's hard to see past the fact you don't want a night out alone with your partner to get to the actual beeping issue.


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