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To put my DS in girls pj's??

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Checkingusername Fri 30-Jun-17 15:14:03

Hey guys!

Me again, I'm the poster who asked about a dress and received a unanimous NO! So I decided NOT to put my kid in one!

However, he has very suddenly grown out of his 0-3m clothes but I haven't got the next size up solely because he seemed to have room to grow, had a growth spurt & is now too big!

However, I've posted on selling sites asking for babygrows & have bed offered a few of them, however they are VERY girly.....my reasoning to do it?? Because they are free, he's a baby & wont understand & wont particularly care.

Unfortunately my DS's DF doesn't currently contribute (I am in the process of getting this sorted) & I had to foot every last cost for all the things my DS would need at the start & gave got into a bit of debt!

So anything free will hugely help!

So, after that long read.....AIBU to put my DS in free girls babygrows??

JigsawBat Fri 30-Jun-17 15:16:17

I don't see why not. But then, I wouldn't see the dress as an issue either.

liquidrevolution Fri 30-Jun-17 15:30:04

Wht not my Dd wears boys ones. grin

Keepthebloodynoisedown Fri 30-Jun-17 15:32:02

Yabu, this will definitely turn him gay.
Didn't you know that anything pink can actually effect boys hormones, you'd basically be giving him a shot of oestrogen.
Seriously though op yanbu, it's not going to effect him. Hope you get things sorted out soon flowers

Closetlibrarian Fri 30-Jun-17 15:32:13

Why on Earth not? DS (20months) wears his sister's hand-me-down pjs and some of her clothes too. Hasn't made his willy drop off yet.

mumeeee Fri 30-Jun-17 15:32:52

YANBU.Its fine to do that

Zjmlove Fri 30-Jun-17 15:32:59

I'm confused. The pjs question alone wouldn't make me wonder this, but the dress one as well? You want to dress your baby boy on girls clothes?

I suppose the baby won't know any different...

JeReviens Fri 30-Jun-17 15:37:41

Have you seriously ONLY been offered girl's clothes? Really?

Checkingusername Fri 30-Jun-17 15:39:01

Keep grin** I woke my DS up laughing!
I actually thought as I read it you were being 100% serious! 😂

Bumpandkind Fri 30-Jun-17 15:39:51

I dress my ds is 'girls' pjs. Next girls nightwear is actually really unisex and lovely.

Checkingusername Fri 30-Jun-17 15:40:37

I've been offered neutral/boys & girls, however, at the rate he goes through them due to sickness. I needed as many as I could get. I didn't want to limit how many I got so considered the girly ones too

PlayingSardines Fri 30-Jun-17 15:40:45

My son spent about half his time as a small baby in handed-on pink and floral babygros. The funny thing was that he was a very male-looking baby, so he looked a bit like a baby Grayson Perry..

TabascoToastie Fri 30-Jun-17 15:42:01

I don't know why you got a resounding no previously. But MN can be really weird sometimes. All it takes is one poster with an agenda and a bee in their bonnet (and some people do have very odd ideas about gender policing) to dictate and dominate the entire 'tone' of a thread.

There is no such thing as "boy" clothes and "girl" clothes (with the exception of biologically necessitated items like bras, or cups for sports). Right now 21st C Western culture has deemed pink=girls blue=boys and dresses=girls. Throughout more of history and in other cultures pink=boys and blue=girls. There are plenty of cultures in the world and throughout history where dresses and skirts were considered totally normal clothes for a man, and in which pink was considered an extremely manly macho colour that was completely inappropriate for girls. In some cultures makeup was considered a class thing, rather than a gender thing. So the whole idea of gendered clothing is a totally made-up invention and most of our ideas about boy and girl clothes are really recent and were created as a marketing gimmick.

Dress your kid in whatever is convenient and the kid likes. I can sort of understand the "what if they get bullied?" argument about older kids (even though I still think it's stupid) but with a baby, there's absolutely zero reason to stick to gendered clothes. It's a baby. Dress him up like a bunny rabbit every day if you want to. No one's business.

Checkingusername Fri 30-Jun-17 15:42:34

All the day time clothes I've been offered are either boy or unisex, it's just the babygrows which are girls.

It was that or cutting the feet off the bottoms of his current ones! (Cutting The baby grows & not actually his feet!shock)

Checkingusername Fri 30-Jun-17 15:46:32

Tabasco I really could have done with you on my other thread!

I was actually called a bad person for even considering it! Was also told they feel sorry for my DS the fact he had a mother like me!! shock all because of a bloody dress!

I think he'd look absolutely lovely in one, not because I want him to look like a girl! & the fact that changing his bum would be 100x easier!

The babygrows are solely because a whole bunch is free, it's practical

MyCalmX Fri 30-Jun-17 15:48:32

Ffs. The stupidity of some threads these days.

VladmirsPoutine Fri 30-Jun-17 15:52:05

I have to say if these are the sort of issues that cause you this much grief in parenthood then I'd advise everyone to try it. It's like the mental distress of trying to decide whether you fancy ketchup or mayo with your chips. Astonishing, parenting is literally as easy as chips!

Checkingusername Fri 30-Jun-17 15:56:56

Anyone who says parenting is as easy as chips, are people who have no kids!

If it was easy, I'd have had kids 10 years ago!

TitsalinaBumSquash Fri 30-Jun-17 16:00:28

Meh, my son is 4 and wanted some pink Pokémon pjs from Next so I got him some for his birthday, he's thrilled! He also had some pink peppa pig ones when he was 2. I'm not inclined to give a toss what people think of what he's wearing, all mine pick their own clothes. I can't fathom why I would choose their style.
My eldest 2 have turned out as teens who wear stereotypical 'boys' clothes despite the odd dress or banana costume as a little child.

RideOn Fri 30-Jun-17 16:09:04

My last 3 babies have had the "wrong" gender babygrows at various times due to handme downs from pfb and relatives/second hand shops.
None of them remember this and/or mind.

I like cheap/free things especially things like babygrows that are soon grown out of.

IMO A million times better to pay off debt rather than spend any money on things like this.

IWantABlueBanana Fri 30-Jun-17 16:33:37

Ach, we have 3 dd's and 1 ds, hes def worn his dsis jammies when we have run out.

A friends ds loves frocks and pink glittery shit, so thats what he gets.

Do you want some boy ones?

DonkeyOaty Fri 30-Jun-17 16:43:17

was this your baby boy in a dress thread?

OOAOML Fri 30-Jun-17 16:44:01

Dresses used to be standard for young boys www.vam.ac.uk/moc/collections/boys-dress/

Re babygrows - I had a girl followed by a boy. He wore quite a lot of pink pyjamas and vests. I also used to put tights on him in winter as he couldn't pull those off in the pushchair the way he did socks.

I also dressed my daughter in navy and red quite a lot as a baby/toddler because it suited her colouring.

People get far too hung up on all this.

Ohyesiam Fri 30-Jun-17 16:46:30

My son has dark brown eyes, olive shin and dark golden hair. He suited link, so I dressed him in it. He looked delicious, and people always remarked his pretty she was.
So people don't know the gender of your baby, it's not such a big deal.

Rarotonga Fri 30-Jun-17 16:48:10

YANBU. He will never know. My sister has given me a couple of barely used grobags for baby ds, they are pretty girly (pink, flowery, etc) but they keep him warm at night just the same as any traditionally boyish coloured grobags would. And I haven't taken photos of him in them or told anyone (until now I guess!) Nobody need know smile

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