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Repetitive question annoying me - AIBU?

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user1498744838 Thu 29-Jun-17 15:28:52

This is petty but its really winding me up.

I have a friend (same age, 26 yr old females) where every time we arrange a meet up, she will ask me 3-10 times beforehand (at weekly intervals) when the date is planned for. I tell her, then she asks me again. I've asked why she doesn't have a diary and she says she sometimes uses it but not all the time.

Anyone got any good ideas of what to say to her to make her sort it? No point buying her one as I know she has one and she has an iPhone. Finding it tiring. Should I just get over it?

MissBax Thu 29-Jun-17 15:29:56

I'd just tell her once and if she forgets the date not make plans with her again!

blackteasplease Thu 29-Jun-17 15:31:05

I thought this was going to be about dc!


BenLui Thu 29-Jun-17 15:33:09

Tell her and if you are with her make her put it in her phone's calendar.

Alternatively tell her and then send a text with the info.

user1498744838 Thu 29-Jun-17 15:52:13

Whats dc, Yanbu?

ratspeaker Thu 29-Jun-17 15:57:16

Id be tempted to say, "look we arranged this, if you cant be bothered just say so."
Or " if its not important enough for you to remeber lets just cancel"

NellieFiveBellies Thu 29-Jun-17 16:00:24

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

user1498744838 Thu 29-Jun-17 16:20:28

All the repeptitive questions come on text anyway (after agreeing the date on text in the first place). She can't be bothered to scroll a little to confirm the date.

Redsippycup Thu 29-Jun-17 16:22:24

Then i would reply with what rat said

HipsterHunter Thu 29-Jun-17 16:22:27

"What date are we meeting again?"
"Use a diary or scroll up - it's in your messages. I'm not your mum!"

crunched Thu 29-Jun-17 16:27:55

These repetitive questions via text seems to be becoming a thing.
I can only think it means the questioner gets replies and therefore, by seeing their phone light up, is made to feel more popular.
It is my only explanation for"still on for the morning?", "same place as usual?", "if I'm there first, shall I get you a cappuccino?" etc.etc.

NellieFiveBellies Thu 29-Jun-17 16:32:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TheDogsMother Thu 29-Jun-17 16:37:55

Put the event in your iPhone calendar (date/location etc), scroll down and add her as an invitee and it will appear in her calendar. If you add an alert (2 days, 1 week or whatever) she will be reminded before the event.

HipsterHunter Thu 29-Jun-17 16:39:52


Checking that you are still on for drinks later is a good idea I hunk! People forget stuff!

user1498744838 Thu 29-Jun-17 17:32:30

It annoys me to have to go back myself and get a screenshot of the date. Like why should I have to do that? Maybe I just need to drop it as I doubt its going to stop unless I say something. Someone at my work suggested 'I'm not your PA'

Redsippycup Thu 29-Jun-17 20:48:23

Maybe reply with 'whatever we decided on in the text last week'

Changedtocovermyass Thu 29-Jun-17 20:52:03

Tell her you don't remember. Or ask what plans? She'll doon have to put the effort in.

user1498744838 Fri 30-Jun-17 16:00:24

Thanks everyone. I think I'll yse redsippycups suggestion. Not too harsh but should hopefully do the job

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