Was going to say AIBU not to want to see them (really MiL - she'll be driving this), but not much I can do about how I feel (at least short term). But should I grit teeth and meet up with them anyway?
Background (sorry a bit long). Split from ex-H of 25 yrs last year after ongoing affair / EA on his part. One late teenage dc who lives 50:50 with each of us, so me not seeing them won't affect access to GC. They live 7+ hours drive away, in the past we saw them around 3-4 times per year.
Ex-H avoids them as much as possible, not unreasonably IMO, though in the couple of years before we split I bullied him into encouraged him to invite them for Christmas as they're quite elderly now and his siblings were abroad/otherwise occupied.
After we split they rang my parents several times (who they've had minimal contact with over the duration of our marriage due to us living many miles away from both of them) telling them that there wasn't an OW involved, ex-H blameless etc. My DM was very much 'yeah yeah whatever' and just didn't say much as didn't want to run down her son/shatter illusions. I've basically avoided ex-Mil other than a couple of very very brief phone conversations to thank for xmas presents.
Whenever she visits ex-H now she emails - and has today now put a note through my door - asking to meet up for tea and a chat. I don't feel I have anything to say to her or want to be involved with her - I didn't want to see her when we were married, ex-H didn't want to see her then (he works VERY long hours whenever she visits), and doesn't want to now, and I definitely don't want to meet up for tea!!! But AIBU / or at least mean to a woman who is difficult but now really quite elderly?
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Sadik · 28/06/2017 17:13
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