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AIBU?

I feel sick please tell me I'm being stupid

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maddiegrayson5555 · 28/06/2017 16:57

Namechanged for this long so bear with me .. so today I was shopping with my dd picked up too much stuff so called her grandad (my dad )who lives close by to help me back home we entered a shop to pick DD up a toy and in the store she started creating cos she wanted said toy . there was loads of customers& everything got a bit flustered and her grandad lifted her out the pram and was playing with her on this toy whilst I paid ... as we exited the store I noticed a wet patch on his shorts by his private parts i said to myself he must have wet himself (sorry to be graphic ) but i kept looking all the way down the road and the stain had tried a white sort of colour that's no wee colour
.the wet patch was not there before we went into the store and my head was turned for a few minutes now I'm.panicking could he have done something to my dd in the minute I had my head turned or is there and innocent explanation to this?? I can't calm down and don't know what to do next please help

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ZestyLimeAndKiwi · 28/06/2017 17:00

Take a deep breath. Do you really think your dad did something sexual to his granddaughter in a public place?

Whosthemummynow · 28/06/2017 17:01

You think that your dad ejaculated in his trousers?

What did he say when you mentioned it?

Dlpdep · 28/06/2017 17:02

Do you have any other reason to suspect something untoward happened?

You are in a toy shop, there could be all sorts of kid gunk on toys. It could be anything.

Asparaguswee · 28/06/2017 17:03

That's a massive leap to be making. Why would you think your own dad would sexually assault your daughter? Has there been other worrying behaviour? Or has he abused you in the past?

BWatchWatcher · 28/06/2017 17:04

It could just be sweat or some sort of gunk.
This is your dad!

maddiegrayson5555 · 28/06/2017 17:04

I honest to god do not know..all I know is sexual abusers are opportunistic . I have been abused myself NOT by my dad but all it takes is a few seconds ..what else could explain the patch of wet around his privates that suddenly appeared and then dried whiteish colour ?

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EssieTregowan · 28/06/2017 17:04

Do you have any reason other than this to think he might be abusing her?

Because this seems like quite a leap otherwise.

FanaticalFox · 28/06/2017 17:05

Pretty sure there must be more to this story. I would never ever suspect or even think of my dad in that way. You must have reasons or past experiences to even consider this line of thought OP or even worse to actually be really upset about it?

EssieTregowan · 28/06/2017 17:05

X post, I'm sorry that happened to you and I am see how that would heighten your awareness.

But I still think you are leaping to conclusions.

EssieTregowan · 28/06/2017 17:06

How old is your dad?

JeffVadersMum · 28/06/2017 17:06

a sort of white colour?
have you ever had any reason to suspect this behaviour?
could something have dropped on it?

Phosphorus · 28/06/2017 17:06

I'd say this is one of those threads where people should be wary of sharing.

Asparaguswee · 28/06/2017 17:06

This is crazy, you're accusing your father, who has never abused you or given you cause to believe he's a paedophile of sexually assaulting your daughter. I think you have anxiety that is waaaaay out of control.

SmokingGun · 28/06/2017 17:06

Didn't you just point out to your dad that he appears to have spilt something on his trousers?

Other than this incident is there any other situation that's made you believe he have harmed your daughter? If not this seems a very drastic thought process.

Loopytiles · 28/06/2017 17:06

Yoghurt?!

Whosthemummynow · 28/06/2017 17:06

what else could explain the patch of wet around his privates that suddenly appeared and then dried whiteish colour

She threw up a bit of milk sick on him?

Babypassport · 28/06/2017 17:06

How old is your daughter? Does she still drink milk?

Many a time my baby has spit up milk on me and I've had crusty white patches on my clothes.

Crunchymum · 28/06/2017 17:07

Jesus fucking Christ alive.

that is the conclusion you jump to OP? Why? I mean seriously why??????

Babypassport · 28/06/2017 17:07

X post!

FanaticalFox · 28/06/2017 17:08

Ah you've been abused yourself that explains it. You need to calm down OP and think logically here. But mostly CALM DOWN please do not impress your past onto your DD or any other potential innocent members of your family. I had a friend that was abused by an uncle growing up and never dealt with it and was a nightmare with her DD and made everyone feel really uncomfortable in most situations i.e swimming pools, clothes shopping, school plays etc etc everywhere and everything was an opportunity for abuse she felt and in the end she had a massive breakdown. Please face your own issues OP.

Whosthemummynow · 28/06/2017 17:08

I can't think of a situation where I would be staring at my dad's crotch for the amount of time it takes for something wet to dry tbh

CocoLoco87 · 28/06/2017 17:08

How old is DD? It could easily be sick, a bit of milk come back up, snot, banana? or a whole host of other things!

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maddiegrayson5555 · 28/06/2017 17:09

She wouldn't throw up milk she's well past that stage she's 19months .there was no gunk on her food or drink &he wasnt eating or drinking .

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Groupie123 · 28/06/2017 17:10

Even if it is semen there could be a number of non-sexual reasons for it- infections, prostate trouble.

garmsfresh · 28/06/2017 17:10

Wow just wow . 😶

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