I have a good job where I live. I have a lovely little home. My parents have always said they want us to live nearer so they can be more involved in our lives and that it's better for my Son and he will be unhappy growing up where I live!
At the moment we go back to stay with my Parents for all my annual leave and I've always had the view to move back nearer them.
I applied for a few jobs near them and I have come to the conclusion that while I would love my parents to live nearer me, not at the cost of living in a city I love. It may seem materialistic but I couldn't be happy living near my parents. I would love to have them near and I do feel lonely where I live but I had such a boring childhood I'd not want that for my Son.
When I leave to return home after seeing my parents I can hear my Mum secretly crying and it breaks my heart. They love us and miss us.
My Dad has said my Mum is shy and the only company she has is me and I should move back. For years I failed to settle anywhere but now I've had a lightbulb moment.
My parents own their own home worth 170k, are both going to be retired in one year time. They could EASILY move. Yet they want me to give up my job, my home and get a new job near them and move to a new home which will probably be in an awful area just to be nearer them. They say they are settled in the area and don't like where I live.
I've decided to make it clear now that I have no intention of moving back to near them and if they want to live near us they can move to me. They were very strict parents and I spent my teenage years feeling like I was in prison. They're not bad parents and love us both but they were very strict and I didn't feel able to be who I really was. I feel if I stay here I will keep control and if I move back they may start trying to control me again. AIBU to say they should move to me if they're that bothered?
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To tell my parents that if they want to leave near my Son and I they can move
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user1498221998 · 28/06/2017 15:49
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