About 8 months ago, I started working for a large, well known company. I really thought it was the right move for me and was sure it was going to be a great, forward-thinking company.
From day one I knew I had made a massive mistake.
I have never worked for such an old fashioned, backwards company. Their policies are bordering on unfair, their processes are long winded and archaic - but worst of all, they have a horrible culture of putting managers on pedestals. No-one will ever admit that a manager has made a mistake, instead they tiptoe around the issue and wouldn't dare let the manager know that they have done something wrong. Instead they prefer to put the blame on anyone who is 'lower in rank'. There is a lot of ass kissing and I am not that kind of person! I just can't be fake, I can't suck up to people like that. Instead I want to highlight mistakes and have been hushed so many times. The blame always seems to come back on to my team, when clearly it is someone else's error. This happens on an almost weekly basis. We are constantly being criticised, spoken to rudely, our opinions are dismissed and when we try to defend ourselves and show that it wasn't actually us that caused the problem, all we seem to hear is 'but you need to take ownership'.
I went on holiday for a week and came back thinking I wasn't going to let myself get sucked in to all this negativity again, that I would rise above it. But two days in, and already my work is being questioned again. Without going into specifics, something should have been picked up in November and wasn't (bear in mind that I only started working there in November). I then questioned this about a month ago and discovered that it had been missed back in November. As a result it has all now come out and management are annoyed and questioning why it wasn't picked up at the time.
They basically stand by my boss' desk asking all these questions, I can hear everything. Then she asks me to forward her any email 'evidence' that I have. And they stand there saying that it's no good, it should have been picked up earlier and why wasn't it picked up earlier...and my boss just agrees with them. And I am sat at my desk rolling my eyes, trying not to get sucked into the drama. I know that I did nothing wrong and it was actually one of the managers complaining that had a large part to play in this being missed. But I kept thinking 'just let it roll over you, don't rise to it, you did nothing wrong...'
But you know what, WIBU to actually stand up to the bullies and say enough is enough? Why should I just let them keep on shifting blame to us? And please can I have some tips on dealing with this in a calm manner (I have a tendency to be a bit too passionate and over emotional at times like this ).
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AIBU to be this angry with my horrible bully of a boss?
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pixieindisguise · 27/06/2017 21:37
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