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AIBU?

DP cheated.

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user1498563254 · 27/06/2017 12:54

Sorry for long post..
so as not to dripfeed- I was abused very badly as a child which resulted in me being sent to a grouphome.. DP knows this and has been aware since we met
We have another friend- "Anne" (not real name)
DP and me have been apart (in different counties) for a while, and i came over to surprise him.. found him in bed with anne.. right in the middle of sex. not sure what to do. DP keeps apologising and telling me how guilty he feels.
WIBU to stay with him?? he says he is sorry and i feel so bad Sad

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araiwa · 27/06/2017 13:01

really? i mean, really?

Biscuit

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 27/06/2017 13:01

I'm sorry this has happened to you.

He's only sorry because he's been caught.

He is a scumbag and she is a nasty piece of work. You'd be better off with both of them out of your life.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 27/06/2017 13:02

Yes. You've literally seen him having sex with another woman.

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waitforitfdear · 27/06/2017 13:03

You have a lot on your plate op by all your previous posts.

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Madwoman5 · 27/06/2017 13:03

are you serious? Walk away now. You are better with someone who respects monogamy and respects you.

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MrsD79 · 27/06/2017 13:03

You feel bad???? For what exactly???? Do not let your past influence your future. Get rid. Now.

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user1498563254 · 27/06/2017 13:04

araiwa he was my first partner and i don't know if I could trust anyone else like him

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araiwa · 27/06/2017 13:05

well you clearly cant trust him either

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user1498563254 · 27/06/2017 13:05

waitforitfdear previous posts?? sorry i am new- had to look up what DP meant before posting, what does this mean?

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AndTakeYourHorseWithYou · 27/06/2017 13:07

araiwa he was my first partner and i don't know if I could trust anyone else like him

Clearly you can't trust him at all.

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user1498563254 · 27/06/2017 13:08

thanks all..
he keeps saying to me that he has f-cked up once but he will never do it again

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Mammysin · 27/06/2017 13:08

Your " dp" has proved he can't be trusted, so why would you trust him now? Your "friend" Anne has also betrayed you ; move on with dignity. You are worth more than this & a partner whom you deserve and who deserves you is out there. Good luck .

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waitforitfdear · 27/06/2017 13:08

Apologise user there are a number of posters with very similar posting names so if you are new again apologise.

They both sound hateful and not worth any second chance

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ThatsNotMyMarmot · 27/06/2017 13:11

No. It's the end.

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ThymeLord · 27/06/2017 13:12

Of course he will do it again and if you accept this then you are giving him permission to do it again. Life really is too short to hitch your wagon to a cheating twat. Don't do it.

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sidesplittinglol · 27/06/2017 13:13

He's abused your trust OP. Please don't fall for his lies. And so has your so called friend Anne.

If you don't mind my asking, how old are you?

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SparklyMagpie · 27/06/2017 13:14

Haha i bet it was his "only fuck up" he'll have been doing this for a while

I'm sorry OP but you can't trust him, tell him to do one

And as for your "friend"...

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user1498563254 · 27/06/2017 13:15

sidesplittinglol i am 20.. i know young for mumsnet but i really did not know where else to get advice

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ThymeLord · 27/06/2017 13:17

Jesus if you are only 20 then your whole life is ahead of you. Bin the cheat and go live your life. Seriously, you will wake up one day and realise you've wasted 10 years on a prick like this. For gods sake, don't do it!

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Mulberry72 · 27/06/2017 13:19

He only feels guilty because he got caught!

You're better off without either of them.

Flowers

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innagazing · 27/06/2017 13:20

Maybe book yourself your own room in this hotel or another and at least it will give you some space and time to figure out what you want to do.
Tell him you don't want to see him at the moment.
How long have you been together, and do you normally live together? Any children?
I'm sorry this has happened to you- it must be a big shock.

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Dibbles1967 · 27/06/2017 13:22

OP, think of it this way. He has shown his true colours & you now have the opportunity to walk away & find someone deserving of you before you invest yourself more in this relationship.

He's playing on your vulnerability. Move on & put this cock man behind you. "Ann" can jog on also. You don't need "friends" like that.

Watch Sliding Doors, have a beverage of choice & look forward to the rest of your life with people you can TRUST.
Flowers

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Goldenhandshake · 27/06/2017 13:22

What Thymelord said.

Do not waster another breath on this fool. Or your so called 'friend'. He will do this again, and do not fall for any bullshit about this being the first and only time, it is all lies.

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user1498563254 · 27/06/2017 13:23

innagazing we have been together for about 4 years, and we live together usually but he is always travelling- no children but i have always wanted them
i really cannot wrap my brain around it- he would always say he would do anything for me, and i never saw any of this coming

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BastardGoDarkly · 27/06/2017 13:26

araiwra is it so important to you to be the one that calls troll first, that you are willing to risk it being a real situation with a real, upset person? Its twattery at its finest, and against talk guidelines, so shove your biscuit.

Op, don't let your past jade your future, he's a 24k bastard, dump him, block him, move on, that goes for Anne too, treacherous cow.

Do you have good friends? Lean on them, take care of yourself Flowers

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