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Numberstotalconfusion Tue 27-Jun-17 06:37:32

We have annual expenditure audits to complete. Deadline was may I had to get an extension
I've been asking him repeatedly to do them and he's only partially done 2/4 so far. Now I feel like I'm nagging him constantly and he seems annoyed when I ask but they need to be done.
We had agreed at the start he would do them each year and any associated paperwork yet he never does the jobs he's meant to meanwhile all the other organising of various things falls to me and I get that all done.
Fair enough he works and I don't but this was one job we agreed he would do and now I'm having to pester him. Last night I asked please could he start the 3rd form and when I came down I'd answer any questions he needed to ask me if I had to. After an hour I came back and he was watching tv?? He said he would get up early to do it today and he just turned the alarm off ?? I asked him and he's clearly in a mood with me.

I do all the other tasks and often have a big to do list on a weekly basis and get it done I don't think I'm asking too much of him for the one task I can't do and we had ore arranged he would do it. I just wanted the stress of the audits completely taken away from me and really don't even want to sit there while he does it as I've given him all the relevant paperwork so I shouldn't have to do anything towards it yet the last time he kept asking me questions and trying to get me helping ? It just gave me a headache
We agreed he would do then so AIBU to expect he keeps his promise ?

LindyHemming Tue 27-Jun-17 06:41:59

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Numberstotalconfusion Tue 27-Jun-17 06:45:23

End of June is the deadline now

Numberstotalconfusion Tue 27-Jun-17 06:46:28

Consequences of missing it means the accounts are not all up to date/money accounted for and then potentially I could be in trouble for being late with the forms etc (it's all in my name)

Chloe84 Tue 27-Jun-17 06:46:38

Is this for a home business or for tax purposes?

It sounds like he is waiting for you to cave in and do them. What are the consequences of not submitting the forms on time?

notthebackdoordear Tue 27-Jun-17 06:48:50

You do the forms. And stop doing something else i.e. Laundry, cooking tea until they're done xxxx

Numberstotalconfusion Tue 27-Jun-17 06:49:08

No it's for direct payment accounts for children (used for respite care and short break activities and carers pay)
We agreed this would be his job. He did it last year after much nagging. I just can't do it (number dyslexia)
He's not generally lazy and does so much in terms of housework etc this was the only paperwork task I needed him to do

Neutrogena Tue 27-Jun-17 07:01:49

Not sure who is BU.
2 sides to every story so probably a bit of both. When you're in a shit relationship, so much of what OH does seems unreasonable unfortunately.

Numberstotalconfusion Tue 27-Jun-17 07:04:07

It's not a shit relationship at all, it's just this one issue. Like I said dh does to be fair work full time and helps equally with the housework and children.
We had however pre arranged he would do this one task and I've had to nag him to get it done and that's the problem.
He is doing it but the fact I have had to keep on at him is hard

Numberstotalconfusion Tue 27-Jun-17 07:06:07

I wonder if he doesn't understand the extent of my issues. I've explained as best I can but I literally can't process numbers of any sort even when is mit on paper if he says to me "you paid for this on x day from your account and transferred back why did you do that?" Or "what's this holiday pay for x amount?" Even that starts giving me a headache then numbers on an actual page is even worse

Chloe84 Tue 27-Jun-17 07:28:10

OP, ignore Neutrogena, s/he comes scross quite goady in other threads.

I think you need to sit him down and explain that this is causing you a lot of anxiety and that filling out the forms is difficult for you because of your dyslexia. Ask him to list all of his questions on paper instead of hammering questions at you. You could also send a text, calmly setting out why the form beeds to be completed by a certain date (no please, no thank you, no begging).

Numberstotalconfusion Tue 27-Jun-17 08:59:04

Well he did do most of it and will finish the rest tonight so at least it's resolved
Now I just need the cure for number dyslexia ....

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