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why such a long wait for a wedding?

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JudyBlumeForever Mon 26-Jun-17 20:01:01

Dp and I have decided we ought to get married. Neither of us are particularly fussed about having a big or even a small wedding. We just want to rock up at the registry office, sign the paperwork and carry on as normal.

But the earliest date they can fit us in for a simple 10 minute appointment is..... October.

Aibu that this seems like a crazy long wait? The earliest we can get an appt to register our intent to marry and they can check our passports/proof of address is halfway through August - they are fully booked till then.

Notknownatthisaddress Mon 26-Jun-17 20:03:52

Well it's only 4 months. Not that long really..............

And even though it's only a '10 minute do ' it will be longer for them as there is all the paperwork and faff to sort. And there are obviously 4 months worth of people in front of you in the queue!

You will have to wait I'm afraid.

Pangur2 Mon 26-Jun-17 20:03:56

It might be quicker to go to Scotland for the weekend maybe? Not sure of all the rules, but there's a lot less faff up there.
I got married in Scotland and my friend is gtting married down here in England and I can't believe the amount of paperwork she is having to do!

KungFuEric Mon 26-Jun-17 20:05:03

Where do you live? Have you checked neighbouring counties?

nuggetofchicken Mon 26-Jun-17 20:05:55

Why don't you try a different place ?

Bobbiepin Mon 26-Jun-17 20:06:01

If you aren't that fussed about it then why is the wait a problem?

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Mon 26-Jun-17 20:06:32

You don't have to go to your local office!!!

JudyBlumeForever Mon 26-Jun-17 20:08:26

We live in south east, so its a long way from Scotland!

I phoned up and booked it today, just at our local registry office. We're not in a huge rush to get married but a 4 month wait just seems like a really long time for the most basic thing they offer.

ExplodedCloud Mon 26-Jun-17 20:08:42

They'll probably be shorter on staff than usual over the summer and prioritising birth and death registrations.

JudyBlumeForever Mon 26-Jun-17 20:09:22

I didn't realize I didn't have to go to my local office - seems completely obvious now it's been pointed out!!!

ChickenBhuna Mon 26-Jun-17 20:11:21

The OP could use a different registry office for the ceremony but will still need to give notice at her local one.

reallybadidea Mon 26-Jun-17 20:11:32

Elope to Vegas and have a holiday at the same time

OlennasWimple Mon 26-Jun-17 20:22:14

Public sector cuts got us all in many and varied ways

itsbetterthanabox Mon 26-Jun-17 20:30:19

Did you say any day of the week? Or is it a Saturday you want?

JudyBlumeForever Mon 26-Jun-17 21:04:23

Any day of the week. Just first available appointment slot

Queenofthestress Mon 26-Jun-17 21:25:46

Alot of babies are born in the summer so that's probably why grin

FanaticalFox Mon 26-Jun-17 21:33:55


barrygibbscheekbones Mon 26-Jun-17 22:36:38

We did the same, in and out registry office job. We got our first appointment within 2 weeks, and at that appointment were able to book our marriage ceremony for 7 weeks later.

notanevilstepmother Mon 26-Jun-17 22:38:32

If you don't get married at your local one you still need an appointment at your local one.

MsSusanStoHelit Mon 26-Jun-17 23:05:41

If your local place is lovely, you'll have heaps of people from outside the area wanting a summer wedding. Try somewhere a bit more basic looking!

I confess we were one of these - booked ours over a year in advance in a nice registry office in a borough in London we had connections to but didn't live in. But our local one, which we didn't have any real connection to bar happening to live there at the time because it was cheap, is pretty crap looking and hard for guests to get to - they had much more availability.

TheCraicDealer Mon 26-Jun-17 23:13:52

May-September is prime wedding season, so probably even the mid-week slots have been booked a while. If you'd decided to get it done in January it might have been a different story!

KC225 Mon 26-Jun-17 23:54:09

It's three weeks to bury someone these days

JudyBlumeForever Tue 27-Jun-17 10:03:01

3 weeks to bury someone shock.

lanouvelleheloise Tue 27-Jun-17 10:05:50

You have to go for a pre-appointment - not sure why - maybe it's to check you really are who you say and that the marriage is legit? Even with the simplest weddings there are things you need to do - 4 months will fly by, don't worry.

PeachesAndCream1 Tue 27-Jun-17 10:43:26

I really don't understand how it is so long to bury someone? In nz, 2 or 3 days - tangi up to 4.

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