about dog-sitting

[category12]

My ex and his new partner have dog-sat for me a few times since he moved in with her. I'm taking the dc off for a week or so in the summer holidays and ex said "so do you want us to have the dog again?" and I said that would be great.

So he said he'd ask new partner. She's agreed but reluctantly because Dog was a pain in the butt last time and also because I'd said when it was casually suggested that I take her dogs when they want to go away, I said nope.

I have smaller house and cat. She has 2 dogs, one of which is huuuge. I also feel like her dogs are nothing to do with me, as they were hers before ex and she got together, whereas I feel like mine is still partly my ex's responsibility as he chose him and convinced me to get a dog in the first place. I kept Dog when we split because I thought losing both Dad and dog from the house at the same time would have been even worse for the dc.

AIBU to refuse to have her dogs? (Tbh I would rather put Dog in kennels than do turnabout dog-sitting)

[PeaFaceMcgee]

Yanbu.

[PeaFaceMcgee]

If you all still want to keep your dog, just kennel him to avoid any probs.

[toomuchfaster]

YANBU to refuse on grounds of size and you have a cat.
YABU to refuse because 'they are nothing to do with you'. That just makes you sound very childish. If she was a friend suggesting turnabout sitting, the dogs would still mean nothing to you, but the people do.

[category12]

I think I still have a bit of residual pouty (childish) "but I didn't even want a dog" going on. I do love the dog, don't get me wrong, but I wouldn't have chosen to get one.

I guess I need to let go of that and accept my proud sole ownership.

[LiveLongAndProspero]

It's your dog now, regardless of how you got it. You made the choice to keep it.

[NorthumbrianGirl]

I actually think yab a bit u to ask them to have your dog but not be willing to have theirs.

I would maybe get other dogsitters yourself in future.

[Chloe84]

Did you actually say 'nope' to them?

Not really versed in the art of diplomacy are you, OP? Just explain why you can't have their dogs and tell them you'll get a dog kennel for your dog. And it is your dog.

[category12]

No it wasn't just nope, Chloe84 I just thought my post was long enough without the full conversation. I did say no and discussed my reasons.

On this occasion, I didn't ask for them to take Dog, the ex brought it up and I said yes if you can. Later on this about me not being willing to reciprocate was brought up.

I would definitely rather he went into kennels than I reciprocate.