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Hairdressing red tape ruined my weekend

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Sparklycurtainpole · 24/06/2017 14:31

But of background.
Three little ones aged 6 and under. Partner works away. No other weekend childcare and I currently work in the week.
Haven't had any time, nights out, exercise opportunities or even one single solitary minute without the children in 15 weeks since I last visited the hairdresser.
Booked an appointment a couple of months ago for today for full colour and a cut and was advised as it would be 15 weeks since I last went, I'd need to update my skin patch test. I've been going to this hairdresser for over 6 years so they know me well and I've never had a reaction to anything before.
Anyway, since booking the appointment, things have been mad. One of my daughters has had two surgical procedures; I've been in hospital myself; I've handed in my notice at work and got a new job; and my baby has been in a&e to name but a few things. this is all alongside my partner being away and having no other childcare.
Anyway, they phoned last night to say I couldn't have my colour today as I'd forgotten to come in for my patch test. I burst into tears as I've had the last few weeks from hell and was desperate to have a bit of time for me. I asked if I could find down and get one but they said they shut jn 5 mins and it wouldn't make any difference as it needed to be on for 48 hours.
I phoned oh who was traveling home and he picked me one up which I've had on since 6pm last night but they told him there is no way they'll do a colour anyway.
I've since had today, an email and a text reminder about my appointment for later today, both of which had a reminder about needing a patch test which seems stupid if you need 48 hours.
I know it's my fault for not remembering but I just don't get why when I've been there for years, they'll be doing the same colour I've always had and I'll have had the patch on for almost 24 hours why it's still just a flat no. I also don't get why thrt left it until I couldnt possily remedy the situation to call but then really rub it in by sending me more messages today!
I'm just totally fed up as I've been waiting for this for so long and it'll be months again before I can organise childcare again.
Aibu to be so disappointed and to be crying over my sodding badger stripy grey hair which I'll be stuck with for months now.

OP posts:
Sparklycurtainpole · 24/06/2017 14:33

Apologies for awful typos too. Trying to settle a poorly baby and type!

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NapQueen · 24/06/2017 14:33

Go for the cut, the just chuck a box dye on or embrace the badger look for a week or two.

user1469914265 · 24/06/2017 14:33

Yes.

peachgreen · 24/06/2017 14:35

I understand why you're disappointed but I'm afraid that YABU. The formulas in dyes change and people develop allergies over time. Just Google 'hair dye reaction' to see why it's so important to do a patch test!

villainousbroodmare · 24/06/2017 14:36

I completely understand your annoyance! Also it's silly to give 24hrs notice if they insist on 48hrs for the patch test. I'd happily mind your baby while you went to the hairdressers if I were even in the same hemisphere as you! Any way you can organise childcare so you can go this week? Hope all are okay healthwise.

ILookedintheWater · 24/06/2017 14:36

Go for the cut, get the colour done later in the week. Book a couple of hours off work and take some me time while the childcare is covered.

pinkdelight · 24/06/2017 14:36

Oh dear that sounds rotten, though I can see their position too so no one's being unreasonable. It's just one of those frustrating things when so much is going on and things get forgotten. Is it possible to use sitters or some other babysitting service now and then so you can get a moment to yourself for things like this? You shouldn't have to go so long with no childcare at all.

sprinklesofweirdness · 24/06/2017 14:36

Don't do a box dye!!! It will just ruin it and it will take even more work fixing it. But I understand your issues and that it may be unnecessary but skin adapts and changes and salons are liable if anything was to happen and their insurance covers them if they have evidence that they done 48 hours before rather than doing it for 24h and then you have a massive reaction to whole head of hair rather than a small patch.

Sorry your having such a rough timeFlowersFlowers

(Was a hairdresser)

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 24/06/2017 14:37

Agree about developing an allergy at any time. A friend of mine had a sudden reaction to hair dye and she was a right mess with it. Definitely better to be safe than sorry.

BeeFarseer · 24/06/2017 14:38

Poor you, it's horrible when something you've been looking forward to goes all wrong and just adds to your stress. For that, have a squish and some Flowers.

You are being unreasonable though, and you know it, but it's completely understandable. Allergies can develop after repeated, prolonged exposure, and for things like hair dye in particular. Even if you've been fine for years. That's why they do the patch test.

Is there anything else you can do to treat yourself and relax, until you can rearrange the appointment? I recommend a BIG glass of wine and a nice bath.
WineSmile

SharkSkinThing · 24/06/2017 14:39

I'd be upset and disappointed too. Child-free time is gold-dust!

Can you fnd a good home hairdresser to come over one evening to do your cut and colour this time? Not as much of a treat, I know, but probably a little cheaper so you could spend the extra on a treat (new make-up or wine to drink whilst having the cut?).

HitsAndMrs · 24/06/2017 14:39

If you had a reaction to the dye, you would be the first person to blame the hairdresser. They have to protect themselves and the business and also you. YABVU, it's your fault you didn't go for the test so you can't blame the salon.
I'm a beauty therapist and this happens all the time, people don't come for tint tests and then moan they can't have the treatment. Reactions can happen at any time and patch tests have to be kept up to date for insurance purposes.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 24/06/2017 14:42

It's quite possible to react to a colour that you've being using for years.
You can't really blame the hairdresser

insancerre · 24/06/2017 14:44

You forgot to go and it's the hairdressers fault?
You have had a couple of months to do it

Sparklycurtainpole · 24/06/2017 14:47

Thanks folks. I know I'm in the wrong for forgetting. My aibu isn't about the actual need for a test, it's a frustration at reminding me after I can't do anything about it then sending me multiple reminders today and also a more lighthearted aibu about being so ridiculously upset about a hair colour which I known in the grand scheme of things is a mere trifle.
I'm going to go for the cut and see if they'll do anything like foils instead of a full head colour (clutching at straws here I know!)
Just so blinkin fed up, cross with myself for forgetting and being so disappointed

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limestrawberry · 24/06/2017 14:47

Flowers

I'd be GUTTED.

chumpchange · 24/06/2017 14:49

Flowers from me too OP. Sorry this has happened. What a bloody disappointment.

SecretlyChartreuse · 24/06/2017 14:57

As someone who has had to arrange a patch test recently and whose salon sends day before reminders, tell them they need to fix their reminder system as it is worse than useless.

Reminders the day before saying you need 48 hours notice is a kick in the teeth and this needs to change.

Bunbunbunny · 24/06/2017 15:01

I understand you're feeling upset but they can't take the risk, I became allergic to dye when I was 27 I was gutted. The reaction was awful, my head felt swollen and my scalp felt like it was on fire. I had sores on my head for weeks. I'd never had a reaction before

Go and have a pamper day get a massage or your nails & feet done so you have that much needed break x

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 24/06/2017 15:05

Wow. Have all my hairdressers been horribly remiss? I have never had a patch test and I've probably seen a dozen (not cheap) hairdressers over the last 10 years.

TitaniasCloset · 24/06/2017 15:07

A mani pedi might cheer you up a bit now Flowers

RedPeppers · 24/06/2017 15:09

I can understand your grumble if they have been sending yu reminders for the cuts etc.. but non for the colour test (but someyhow still had a reminder system in place so that they knew and could let you know).

Flowers

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Shockers · 24/06/2017 15:09

Could you sign a disclaimer? I've done that at a beauty salon.

Yolannnda · 24/06/2017 15:10

Ive been hairdressing for 10 years in different salons and have never had this happen, very bizzare.

15 weeks isnt a very long time, you would normally just need a patch test before first colour and then only again if it were a long time since the last colour (atleast 6 months plus). In 24 hours you would have had a reaction by now and they could have had you sign a waiver to say you have denied 48 hour patch test.

Perhaps they have had a recent incident with someone having a reaction so they have gone a bit OTT. I can understand your frustration though, I have a 11 month old bf baby and older DS and if I had organised everything for a bit of me time and it was cancelled I'd be gutted.

RedPeppers · 24/06/2017 15:11

I say that as a self employed person who is sending rm infers to my clients btw.
If you go down that route, then you need to do it all and properly and includes sending reminders for ALL appointments incl a patch test. I hope they are not doing that by hand (which coud explain they have missed one and have sent you several reminders for the next)

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