So the gp were invited to spend the day with the dc today at a theme park, its a place one goes to every week on a pass the older dc had a day off school ( inset) so we asked gp if they would like to take dc to theme park.
We have had to cancel that and I know they will be really dissapointed. However its beyond our control as DF passed away recently and we have to get to his house hundreds of miles away suddenly and its my bday on sunday.
when dh said this to fil he said " oh so they gave up a day at theme park to sit in the car and sing happy bday on the way back down?" sad faces.
The dc do not like staying at GP house and indeed after the last over night stay older DD 9 screamed and begged not to be sent back there. they are uber strict and neither DH nor I enjoy being in their home at all. we have had our ups and downs with them, we have tried to encourage a relationship with our dc and them.
however after DF passed neither of them actually said " so sorry for your loss" or said anything like that, no card, nothing from them,. mil in fact seemed pissed off when I was talking about it briefly to fil who seemed to be feigning slight interest.
I understand they are dissapointed but the implication is I am being selfish for dragging dc away from theme park to sing hapy bday in the car.
Actually, the dc were asked if they wanted to stay with the gp and they said "no". for my bday we are not driving home at all and will go out for lunch and where were are going is my family who they enjoy seeing and also its a lovely part of the world, beach, mountains etc.
I think its despicable insinuation or am I being OTT? Am just fed up of being treated like the one who gets in the way of them and dh and them and DC when they themeselves turn these people away.
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In thinking this is the pits and a new low from Fil.
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Gobbolinocat · 23/06/2017 09:20
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