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"yeah, the kids all have a vomiting bug"—visitors!

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happilyLostCareer Sun 18-Jun-17 04:58:18

Grrrr. Friends turn up at our yesterday with DC 6, 4 & 10 months, all pale, whiny, with running noses and dodgy tummies. After 10mo vomits all over herself & the playmat, and 6 yo continues to whine while shoving her face into mine, DH's, and DS's, parents gaily say "oh don't mind them, the kids all have a vomiting bug" and then stay another 2 hours while their kids monopolise the toilet!!!

They were coming round because they know I'm on my knees with sleep deprivation after 7 months of waking every 10-45 minutes with DS, and we've all been really ill with a cold and thus were too tired to meet them at the usual cafe meeting on Saturday morning. They went to that too and distributed a few viral particles round the cafe...

And guess what, now we all have the bug too.

What is wrong with people?

Only1scoop Sun 18-Jun-17 05:09:15

Selfish fuckers
But why on earth turn up at all when you are so tired. I wouldn't have let them all in

happilyLostCareer Sun 18-Jun-17 05:15:12

We thought it would be 30 mins & healthy kids, not 3 hrs & a pukefest!

NYPDSue Sun 18-Jun-17 05:31:01

Some people just don't get the sickness bug thing. We had a large Christmas gathering and I had a text from one friend on the day whose dd had been sick several times in the night, he thought they's see how she was during the morning and then decide whether to come (for lunchtime). I had to text back and say please don't come hmm

Selfish idiots.

SandysMam Sun 18-Jun-17 05:39:20

I hate this SO much!! I nearly died from kidney failure after a sickness bug, people just don't think...or just don't give a shit! Hope you and your little one don't catch it! Sounds like all you need!

jennymac31 Sun 18-Jun-17 05:47:43

WTF - some people are absolutely selfish and inconsiderate. I hope you'll be having words with them after you & your family have recovered.

Mummyoflittledragon Sun 18-Jun-17 05:53:14

Absolutely disgusting behaviour. Why inflict a nasty illness on others. You have a baby fgs, everyone knows babies can get really ill fast. I have ME/CFS and getting this would be very serious as it could be for anyone with a chronic illness or compromised immune system. Dh and I went on a trip with a group of friends. One of their mother's was visiting from the US and brought a vomiting bug with her. I spent the whole time in the hotel room drinking flat Coke and eating dry biscuits, close to passing out while the mother had mild symptoms and had fun visiting places of interest and wine producers.

Mummyoflittledragon Sun 18-Jun-17 05:54:05

Meant to say and that was before I got ME.

Ceebs85 Sun 18-Jun-17 05:55:40

I hope you've said something. Who does that and in any case why would she force her poor children out of the house!

happilyLostCareer Sun 18-Jun-17 05:56:31

Unsure what to say really. Husband is one of those engineers who constantly crack jokes about academics being clueless halfwits with no common sense (we are academic & ex academic). Wife is a doctor. She knows well that cathing bug after bug does not necessarily confer immunity (ie kids stop getting sick mostly when they're old enpugh not to share germs as much, not cos they're immune to everything), but with 3 kids, full time work & wanker husband she is usually too tired to overrule husband's good ideas on childrearing...

So not much that i say will change his views...

YoureNotASausage Sun 18-Jun-17 06:06:46

I think you should send her a message and say 'I feel bad saying this to you but you carelessly brought a vomiting bug into my house when we are already on our knees and now we are all sick too. Please think in future'.

I'd be fucking livid. There's only one thing that scares me in life with 3 small children and it's a vomiting bug ripping through all of us.

Mummyoflittledragon Sun 18-Jun-17 06:15:28

Do you have the guts to say: "We now all have the vomiting bug, dc being very young in particular is suffering. I know it was (your dh's) idea to still come. I'm surprised, being as he's such a sensible engineer and all. Ha ha ha. Looks like the jokes on us again."

GreenRut Sun 18-Jun-17 06:16:03

That is shocking. If your dcs have a vomiting bug then you bloody stay at home. It's not rocket science.

haveacupoftea Sun 18-Jun-17 06:16:35

I have a relative like this. Always announces during or after visits that her son has some bloody virus or nits. I have a tiny baby and she had her DS visiting the other day. When he started to look a bit flushed she started to fret that he might have picked up chickenpox from some other kid that has it! Sorry but if your child has been exposed to chickenpox can you let me know before bringing him to visit my 4 week old baby and give me a choice as to whether I want to risk him getting ill angry

mummytime Sun 18-Jun-17 06:24:15

Sorry but I would let them know they have added to your problems by giving you the bug. And the drop them.
He sounds like a bully. And they were totally unreasonable to come round. I still feel guilty for visiting friends years ago (probably about 15) when my eldest became ill during the day, AND it wasn't vomiting and he was really symptom free when we left home.

TheMaddHugger Sun 18-Jun-17 06:35:52

YoureNotASausage Sun 18-Jun-17 06:06:46
I think you should send her a message and say 'I feel bad saying this to you but you carelessly brought a vomiting bug into my house when we are already on our knees and now we are all sick too. Please think in future'.

^ This

And Madd ((((((((((((hugs)))))))) OP

1Potato2 Sun 18-Jun-17 06:46:22

I'm confused as to why, on being told they had a sickness bug, you didn't ask them to leave?

They should not of been there in the first place though.

lizzyj4 Sun 18-Jun-17 06:55:03

What You'renotasausage said - although I'd send it to the husband too. They''re selfish idiots who obviously need it spelling out.

Too late for you unfortunately but you might save other people if you tell them straight that they are not welcome when they have a vomiting bug.

babsjonhson Sun 18-Jun-17 07:05:32

They sound like crap friends. Academic or not they're total arse holes.

happilyLostCareer Sun 18-Jun-17 07:35:45

1potato2 we did everything we could to get them to leave but apparently the kids were having too much fun wrecking our garden in between trips to the loo!!!

Have sent message similar to the two upthread. Currently feeling sick, furious and disinclined to ever cross paths with these bloody people again.

Crunchymum Sun 18-Jun-17 08:07:11

As an emethophobe they'd have been asked to leave my house the second I knew they were ill.

Sickness bugs for us aren't only horrible in the usual way but send me off into a spiral of anxiety and panic.

I just don't get why you didn't ask them to leave? 'Oh no we'll stay as the kids are having so much fun' should have been met with 'I'm not joking, we have a big week and can't afford for anyone to be ill, you really need to go' and if they still refused I'd have taken myself and my child away from them.

Sorry OP, I know you are feeling poorly but when I read threads like this (people being bossed about and dictated to in their own homes by 'friends' it always makes me wonder why people tolerate this shit).

I'd be re-evaluating the friendship too.

Crunchymum Sun 18-Jun-17 08:08:04

And my message would have been a lot more direct "thanks for giving us your bug, please don't ever come to my home again if any of you are ill"

harderandharder2breathe Sun 18-Jun-17 08:10:13

I really don't know why you're friends with such rude and selfish people, I certainly wouldn't be after this!

Completely horrible and selfish to inflict a sick bug on anyone but a small baby in particular

donajimena Sun 18-Jun-17 08:17:11

My SIL invited us to a party for my niece at her house. We drove 1.5 hours settled ourselves in. An hour in birthday girl was sick and she casually informed us that she'd been sick in the night but had put it down to excitement. .. she hadn't wanted to cancel and have her upset. angry
I was fucking upset when my two started puking the next day.
One of many reasons why I am nc with the selfish bitch.

Funnyface1 Sun 18-Jun-17 08:26:45

I can't understand how people can be so selfish. But I would have asked them to leave.

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