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To not have done DD's hair for her exam?

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Stellaaa2017 Wed 14-Jun-17 12:00:58

DD is 18 and had an A-Level exam this morning. I did her hair in a high poneytail all the way until the end of year 11. She was self-conscious and wanted it like her friends but could never do it as well as I did, so I had no problem doing it. However, I did say for further education she can do it and she managed to get it in a similar style for the start of sixth form.

This morning it wasn't going well and I admit it definitely wasn't. However, she did get it up many times with it looking ok but claimed there was just too many bumps, so kept taking it out. I admit it didn't look as good as normal but we all have bad hair days!!

She wanted me to do it. WIU not to? It's not like she didn't get her hair up or anything like that. What will she do at uni?

ExplodingCarrots Wed 14-Jun-17 12:03:21

I wouldn't have. I'd keep making her to do it herself , not out of meanness , but so she can practice and perfect it herself.

lougle Wed 14-Jun-17 12:04:10

It takes 2 minutes and she had an exam to go to. It wasn't really about the high pony tail, was it? She was stressed. Would it have hurt to do something to help her relieve her stress?

My DH does all sorts of things that I can strictly do for myself, as I do for him.

SaucyJack Wed 14-Jun-17 12:04:59

Yeah, I reckon YABU. It's a stressful day for her. She probably just wanted a bit of TLC from her Mummy.

Even if she is 18!

harderandharder2breathe Wed 14-Jun-17 12:05:03

She's stressed about her exam, I would've done it for her

Yes she needs to get used to doing her own hair but I wouldn't pick the fight on the morning of her exam.

alltouchedout Wed 14-Jun-17 12:05:18

As it was the morning of an A Level exam I would have done it on the grounds that anything I could do to de stress her should be done and there will be plenty of opportunities in the future to teach her the great life lesson of doing her own hair.

GemmaB78 Wed 14-Jun-17 12:05:41

I should imagine she was all fingers and thumbs this morning due to her imminent exam. Under those circumstances, perhaps you were a little unkind.

DartmoorDoughnut Wed 14-Jun-17 12:06:13

YWBU

OuchBollocks Wed 14-Jun-17 12:06:29

I think you were a bit unreasonable. It's just a nice thing to do when someone's stressed. My mum would do my hair if I asked, and I'm a capable 35 year old.

NellieFiveBellies Wed 14-Jun-17 12:06:30

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OddBoots Wed 14-Jun-17 12:06:35

I can't imagine still doing DDs hair beyond about the age of 12 but I think with an A Level exam that day I would do it, even if I didn't normally do it, just to set her off in a positive frame of mind.

Loopytiles Wed 14-Jun-17 12:07:00

YWBU.

TheDropBear Wed 14-Jun-17 12:07:00

You were being a bit mean. It's not unreasonable to say she should have to do her hair now but considering she had an exam and was probably stressed it would have been nice to offer to do it for today.

FleetwoodMacDonalds Wed 14-Jun-17 12:07:26

I think you are being a bit unreasonable. The last thing needed on an exam day is unnecessary added stress, even if it only involves her hair.

There is a (minor problem), an easy solution (you helping her). Why say no?

If it was an everyday or frequent occurrence I'd agree with you, but give the girl a break on her stressful day!

ElspethFlashman Wed 14-Jun-17 12:07:39

She was stressed and needed a bit of petting. I'd have done it that once, given the context.

bookwormnerd Wed 14-Jun-17 12:09:04

With her exam today I would have done for her. She will have been stressed as it is and anything you can do to make day easier would have helped her go more relaxed into exam

BigSandyBalls2015 Wed 14-Jun-17 12:09:08

Ask yourself if you would have helped a friend out with their hair this morning, if they were struggling and wanted help?

If the answer is yes then why is your DD any different? I think you've been a bit mean.

NavyandWhite Wed 14-Jun-17 12:10:18

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HibiscusIsland Wed 14-Jun-17 12:11:12

On the day of an A level? Yes i would. I remember throwing up with nerves before an A level. Normal rules don't apply.

notanevilstepmother Wed 14-Jun-17 12:11:54

I think she wanted her mum to do her hair because she was worried about her exam. I can understand you don't want to be doing her hair everyday now she is older, but maybe make an exception for this kind of thing?

You will miss her when she moves out, make the most of her time with you.

AperolOnIce Wed 14-Jun-17 12:12:11

YWBU and tbh I wouldn't be surprised if this is the kind of thing she'll remember for a long long time and not in a good way.

rightsofwomen Wed 14-Jun-17 12:13:08

I've done all sorts of things for my A-level son over the past few weeks that I wouldn't normally. I can't help him get the stuff in his brain, but I can show him I'm trying to make things a bit easier for him
e.g. put the bottom sheet on his high sleeper, get him breakfast of his choice on exam days.

He can do both of these things quite well for himself and we both know that, but this is a difficult time.

So, yes I think you were being a bit mean.

notanevilstepmother Wed 14-Jun-17 12:13:37

At uni she will have female flat mates so I wouldn't worry about that.

PersianCatLady Wed 14-Jun-17 12:14:11

She wanted me to do it. WIU not to?
Any other day I would have said that you shouldn't have done it for her but on a day when she has an important exam, I would have done anything to make sure my child left the house in the best possible frame of mind to sit an exam.

So basically YABU, sorry.

upperlimit Wed 14-Jun-17 12:15:14

I think you were mean. I get clumsy when I'm stressed too and it wouldn't have taken you long.

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