To be irrationally upset by DH's vote.

I think YABU. It's up to him how he votes. It isn't the first time he has voted Tory, and you know it is for tactical reasons. It really isn't worth falling out over, is it?

yes, massively. You do realise that we live in a democracy and he can vote how the hell he wants.

YABU as he can vote for whoever he wants. Me & dh vote differently.

YABU.

His vote is none of your business.

YABU.

* I hate the thought that he's done the whole cliche of turning from a left wing student into a right wing middle class professional*
it's called growing up

Regardless of your differing political views, you voted how you wanted, he voted how he wanted. I think berating him is bang out of order.

Grow up OP.

Yabu. Make a pact not to discuss politics if he doesn't want to vote the way you would.

YABU - his vote is his personal business

yabu we live in a democracy my grandad voted labour all his life and my grandma voted conservative all her life they had huge rows over it but heyho that life.

I get where you are coming from OP. It's about wanting your political views to be aligned because it says something about who you are as people and how you both view the world and approach life.

If dh voted for tories I would be very upset. I would also be angry because he is disabled and we suffer more under the Tories.

However, if he was voting tactically I wouldn't be quite as upset.

I don't think you are unreasonable for how you feel. Of course he has every right to vote for who he wants but I think your feelings are understandable. Just don't give him a hard time for exercising his right to vote for who he wants.

My vote cancelled my DH's vote out today. His choice, my choice. I'm a floating voter. I don't think either of us has dwelled on it.

YANBU I'd feel the same. It speaks to his values, which you really want your life partner to share.

YANBU to feel upset; you can't help your feelings.

Fwiw, I'd feel the same.

Seriously? It's called a democracy. He can vote for who he likes. Though to be fair if one of you is pressuring the other to vote a certain way than you may well have a problem of fascism in your house - but it ain't him.

YABU, massively so. It's a democracy and he can exercise his democratic right in any way he wants. It's nothing to do with you frankly.

You're not unreasonable to feel upset, because how you vote is indicative of a whole set of values and priorities. If you find out these are different between you and your life partner it can be unsettling.
But it is his vote, and so being angry with him would be unreasonable, just as him being angry with your vote wouldn't be right. If you rub along ok in everyday life then perhaps a pact to not discuss your votes in the future might be best.

Yep - totally unreasonable. It's everyone's right to vote for who they choose; no one is accountable to anyone for their choice and you should be very grateful that that's the democracy we live in.

Votes are ticks against views. Are OP's husbands views no affair of hers either?

YABU and a control freak

yab massively u, his choice who he votes for, save your vitrol for those who don't vote then whine about the outcome.

I can understand that you are upset. I would be too, because voting Tory suggests holding attitudes and beliefs that are repugnant to me, and I would wonder about the person I was married to having those views. Doesn´t mean he can´t vote as he pleases or that no-one can have those views, but personally I would find it hard to share my life with someone who held them.