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Ugh I feel awful tonight. Been with dh for 10 years and we have a 2 year old. When we first got together dh told me he suffered from depression from time to time and it could get really bad (once attempted suicide in his teens). He said he felt it would be a lot for someone to take on but I was adamant it wouldn't be an obstacle for us and we would get through absolutely anything. If I'm completely honest I was very ignorant about depression and how it affects people - I still struggle to fully understand it now. 9 years went by and we were very happy and any episodes of depression were short enough and relatively mild.
However for best part of a year he's been consumed by it. He's just not happy anymore - and I don't know what to do! Hes told me there's no tangible reason for the way he feels but that he's the lowest he's ever been. He doesn't enjoy work or hobbies anymore, doesn't look forward to the weekends, has cut off his family and friends (says me and dc are the only relationships he can handle at the moment) and he just seems to have lost interest in life.
I really am at a loss of what to do. I get that depression is an illness and people can't help it but I'm struggling to cope with it. I keep trying to find a way to fix things by encouraging him to go out with friends or me or arrange holidays - but he's not interested. In fact, he point blank refuses to do anything! It's really putting a strain on our relationship as I'm struggling to see an end to this and I just don't know how to make things better.
Is there anyone out there that can offer some advice? Maybe someone who has suffered from depression or has a loved one who does? He is an introvert and hates talking about feelings. He won't go to get professional helps s just says he's dealing with it if I ask him how I can help. He's brilliant with our dc - it's the only time I ever see him light up.
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Ineedhelp510 · 04/06/2017 20:09
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