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To stop buying the DC icecreams?

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AudTheDeepMinded Thu 01-Jun-17 08:30:16

When I were a lass an icecream was a real treat, now every time we go out as a family almost the first thing they utter (after 'are we nearly there yet') is 'Can I have an icecream?'.
It is taken as a god given right that they will receive an icecream, whether or not they have behaved themselves, and they whine and whinge from start to finish until they get one. I'm fed up with the entitled little brats and am thinking of enforcing an icecream embargo until they start behaving and appreciating what lucky little sods they are.
IABU (ps I am not enjoying this half term at all).

RhiWrites Thu 01-Jun-17 08:32:52

Tell them ice creams are a reward for good behaviour and they won't get one until the end of the activity or after lunch and that any child who whines won't be getting on.

It'll be hard though, I imagine you buy them for all children or none. You have to be prepared to buy for one child while another throws a tantrum.

MargotLovedTom1 Thu 01-Jun-17 08:36:27

Just say you haven't brought enough money.
Or ignore the whinging and whining. Easier said than done I know, when it's like nails down a blackboard.

AudTheDeepMinded Thu 01-Jun-17 08:38:30

You see that's the really hard bit, when one is angelic and the others little gits. Also once you've said no icecream there is no incentive at all to do as they are told plus all three of them are wailing.
Can I just send them back, I don't think I'm liking this parenting lark?

needtogiveitablow Thu 01-Jun-17 08:39:15

YANBU I only ever got bought ice creams on holiday (in Whitby - never abroad) and even then not everyday and that was when 99's actually cost 99p! Every time my kids hear the ice cream van (and they can tune in from about 5 streets away) they start asking - I feel like I'm turning into my mother because all I'm willing to offer is the cheapest of rocket lollys from the freezer! I refuse to pay upwards of £2 for a single ice cream cone!!!

Trifleorbust Thu 01-Jun-17 08:41:49

Tell them ice-cream is a treat, not today. I don't think it should be associated particularly with good behaviour because then they will see a direct correlation, i.e. "But I was good! Where's my ice-cream?"

Coffeetasteslikeshit Thu 01-Jun-17 08:41:49

I said the same thing to my friend yesterday on the beach!
I refused to buy ice creams on the basis that I can't afford to keep paying for the car park AND ice creams every time.
YANBU, stand your ground and just keep repeating no. I find it helps not to make eye contact with them!

AudTheDeepMinded Thu 01-Jun-17 08:42:10

We're 'lucky' in that we don't get a van near the house. I stretch to poundland icepops as an after school thing when it is hot! When I was growing up we lived one side of a river estuary, next to a golf course. On ther other side was the village. Everyday in the summer we were tortured by the sound of the van visiting the estate on the other side!

Flowerpower321 Thu 01-Jun-17 08:43:46

MIL insists that ice cream time is 3pm. So they have to behave most of the day, then have an ice cream, then start packing up to go back.

AudTheDeepMinded Thu 01-Jun-17 08:46:36

I did stand my ground yesterday and reused to buy any (they'd been good but after parking and wet weather softplay I'd spent enough!) You would think that I had denied them a basic human right!

NataliaOsipova Thu 01-Jun-17 08:48:04

My tactic is sometimes - "Maybe. Later. But if I hear any more whinging and talk of ice creams in the meantime, then the answer is no". Which sometimes works!

Mummysh0rtlegs Thu 01-Jun-17 08:50:07

My kids can't have dairy so this isn't an issue for us. Stick to your guns, whinging and whining means we go home. They get three warnings.

OwlinaTree Thu 01-Jun-17 08:53:19

I wouldn't link it to good behaviour tbh, as you then have to buy them for only a few. It's not very enjoyable eating a ice cream while another child screams! Also food shouldn't really be a reward, sorry.

I sometimes say no not today, we've had xyz other treat and spent all our pennies today (ds is 3). He sometimes moans but he gets over it!

It is hard though when they are in the habit of having them.

BakewellSliceAgain Thu 01-Jun-17 08:54:52

I tend to do ice cream when it's very hot ( rarely happens where I live) or high days and holidays. It gets rotated with McDonalds and buying new trainers as the shopping day indulgence.

BakewellSliceAgain Thu 01-Jun-17 08:56:35

I considered that I was running a benign dictatorship until adolescence.

AudTheDeepMinded Thu 01-Jun-17 08:59:39

Bakewell Our house is a mixture of Mary Poppins and extreme dictatorship! This morning they are all playing marblerun nicely together and I am thinking maybe they are not all that bad!

Titterofwit Thu 01-Jun-17 09:01:06

I really couldn't afford to buy ice-cream from a van when my children were younger. They did get treats but within my price range and at my choosing.

Anyone who demanded ,whinged or whined was reminded of this fact and also reminded that it was possible for us all to just pack up and go back home without any treats at all. I never had to take them home as they knew I meant what I said. Perhaps the lack of actual funds gave steel to my voice but I can't abide whinging kids so would never give in to that anyway.

Maybe a few aborted trips and no treats would help your DC realise how lucky they were/are that you can stump up at any time. In the end you all benefit since if they behave you will be inclined to have more outings and treats in future. Help them see this equation.

viques Thu 01-Jun-17 09:01:08

bakewellyou made me smile. What happened when they hit the heavy hormones? Did they stage a coup and depose you? smile

BakewellSliceAgain Thu 01-Jun-17 09:01:13

Sounds nice. Enjoy the good vibes!

Vintagegoth Thu 01-Jun-17 09:07:11

Our local council stupidly made an agreement with an ice cream van owner that he could park outside the playground all day in exchange for a fee that they use to pay for extra litter picks. This means that instead of the ice cream van popping by the park for 15 mins and if you were unlucky you would miss it, you can't avoid the damn thing. We live next to the park and it is on the route to /from school. I just say I don't have any money. After a while the DC have stopped asking.

I have complained to the council as the van leaves their engine running right next to the play area all day, but the council don't seem to want to change their minds.

luckylucky24 Thu 01-Jun-17 09:10:11

We rarely buy from ice cream vans but do have ice lollies at home most days. When they are costing £1.20 for 8 rather than double that for 1 I don't mind. The only place an icecream is expected and guaranteed is the Icecream farm.

Hdgshsksk Thu 01-Jun-17 09:10:24

Tell them before you leave the house what you are planning to buy for them and preempt any whinging. I used to remind my D.C. before going on days out that I wouldn't be buying any crappy souvenirs - they knew I meant it so would never ask.

SnoutFish Thu 01-Jun-17 09:23:11

I use them as a bribe to get them to the exit of wherever we are as the shop is usually near the gates. And yes, as a good behaviour bribe.

BakewellSliceAgain Thu 01-Jun-17 09:24:09

No but gradual handover of power is trickiest stage..

NormaSmuff Thu 01-Jun-17 09:25:34

tell them you will buy a packet from the supermarket either on the way home for consuming at home, or consuming while out and aobut

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