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Excessive screaming in the playpark, AIBU?

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ScreamLikeYouMeanIt Wed 31-May-17 14:33:14

I expect I am and am just being a bit grouchy but boy is this getting on my nerves today. Our flat looks onto a green area and small play park which is well frequented by the kids on our estate it is therefore reasonably noisy till around 9pm in the summer. Normally I have no problem with this, it is lovely to see them playing/getting exercise/being social and I would be beyond unreasonable to expect it to be quiet on a sunny half term day like today.

However, for the last 30 minutes or so there have been 3 girls around 8/9 who I assume are friends in the park with a carer. They have done nothing but scream in ear piercing pitch since they got here and their carer could not seem to care less. AIBU to think this is just not on, why do girls (who are definitely not toddlers) feel the need to scream and screech and why does their carer not try and have a word with them?

Since they've been here the park has gone from full of toddlers (of which the equipment is designed for) to empty, so I can't be the only one who thinks this is irritating. I have a very important exam tomorrow that I'm revising for and normally the playful chatter is very relaxing, but this just inconsiderate.

ScreamLikeYouMeanIt Wed 31-May-17 14:38:42

When I say carer, I mean it to be a parent/much older sibling/aunt etc

halcyondays Wed 31-May-17 14:41:41

It sounds annoying but at age 8/9, they may be on their own at the park, so nobody to say keep the noise down.

araiwa Wed 31-May-17 14:42:28

because they are kids

EndInjustice Wed 31-May-17 14:48:14

Screaming is the new talking I think.

Spikeyball Wed 31-May-17 15:00:45

Perhaps the person with them actually is their carer?
I understand the disliking of the screaming though. Ds would have to leave instantly to avoid going into meltdown.

ballerinabelle Wed 31-May-17 15:14:17

Go out and join them screaming.

They'll be gone in seconds

ScreamLikeYouMeanIt Wed 31-May-17 15:16:00

Spikeyball I'm sorry your son has to curtail his enjoyment of these things because of inconsiderate behaviour from children and their supervising adults. I don't think you'd be alone I in your plight yo leave, The park is still empty apart from them (and it's been full all day ) and their adult is still sat there on their phone, not paying attention to them or their barking dogs angry. You are right spikeyball, I'm assuming this lady with them was a parent etc, but it could be a carer/support assistant. If this was the case, I'd have more issues with the negligent nature of the carer and them not paying attention to the kids their paid to look after. How can one individual be so oblivious to the needs and enjoyments if others ?

ScreamLikeYouMeanIt Wed 31-May-17 15:20:22

Haha ballerinabelle I am sorely tempted to become 'that' neighbour and shout out the window till they're gone!

biscuiteater Wed 31-May-17 15:28:14

My son screams but he is autistic, non verbal and profoundly deaf and can't hear himself that loudly, people get annoyed with him and me but there's really nothing I can do about it. Reserve judgement because there maybe hidden disabilities you don't know about.

pinkblink Wed 31-May-17 15:35:55

Biscuit, you think all three of them are autistic and can't hear themselves scream?

Op that sounds like a pita, put the radio on and drown them out smile

1hamwich4 Wed 31-May-17 15:37:07

I would find that annoying but I don't see that you can reasonably object.


ScreamLikeYouMeanIt Wed 31-May-17 15:40:36

I knew they would be someone in here who can't resist the hidden disability comment. I also have 2 disabled nephews(one with obvious physical disabilities and one with profound autism ). I am aware of the difficulties faced with communication and screaming and if course my family and I do not hide them away or stop them being out in the park. However within being in the vicinity of autistic nephew it is clear to see he does not experience the world the same and people are generally accommodating of that. He would certainly not be playing socially (apart from screaming ) with other children nor would he be left to play whilst one of us sat glued to our phones on a bench. You may be right, but in this case I think all things weighed up it's probably just non disabled children who haven't been taught it's not acceptable to scream and a lazy adult who can't be bothered to correct them on it.

biscuiteater Wed 31-May-17 15:45:42

If they all go to a special school and are friends then they could quite possibly be autistic. Of course they very well may not be but people are so quick to judge unfortunately.

biscuiteater Wed 31-May-17 15:49:11

Yes agree there wouldn't be social playing.

Groupie123 Wed 31-May-17 15:50:24

If you're that close to the park, it should be obvious if they have severe SEN or not. It's possible to tell at a distance that my next door neighbour's ds has severe autism. He has ear guards, he screams, he doesn't talk, or play games with other kids.

MikeUniformMike Wed 31-May-17 15:51:20

Children do seem to shriek more nowadays. Teenage girls seem to do it quite noticeably.

specialsubject Wed 31-May-17 15:54:50

Teens have been shrieking since Beatles concerts, but that doesn't make it acceptable.

If these kids had special needs I doubt they would be this badly supervised. I suggest a walk down and a request to stop that bloody awful noise.

Sgtmajormummy Wed 31-May-17 15:57:33

At a 10th birthday party I supervised one set of girls screeched like eagles to one another as a reaction to any sort of announcement, like:
"OK, now it's time for cake/presents/a game..."
Pretty annoying and I gave them the Paddington Stare a couple of times but a fairly normal, if inarticulate, show of enthusiasm. They've mostly grown out of it now at 11+.

RB68 Wed 31-May-17 15:59:28

I think around this age there seems to a thing to scream and scream the loudest you can - when I had groups of girls I stopped it but some parents see it as letting off steam????

cate16 Wed 31-May-17 16:03:01

Definitely more shrieking/screaming nowadays. I work in a preschool and this year we have had to keep reminding the children not to scream all the time. Never been a problem before, obviously high jinx and squealing are things most children do when playing - but the constant high pitch screaming is a no go for us.

Spikeyball Wed 31-May-17 16:05:11

If all they are doing is screaming, there is probably sn involved. If they are screaming whilst playing in typical ways, there probably isn't.
I don't mind screaming that can't be helped but avoidable screaming is a pain when I have ds in tow.

donajimena Wed 31-May-17 16:05:19

YANBU. When I worked in a school the girls (NT) would run around the yard screaming. Just screaming. Day in day out.
Ive just been on a camping trip. Girls (again NT from what I could see having met them in close quarters) running up and down screaming...
My partners daughters were doing it last year on the same camp site. I asked them to be quiet. But we were only having fun was the reply. I pointed out that other people were here to relax and have fun too and that 'fun' didn't include having their eardrums burst.

TheMonkeyAndThePlywoodViolin Wed 31-May-17 16:06:11

I knew they would be someone in here who can't resist the hidden disability comment

Why should people have to resist it? Surely they can ask about it?

mrsBeverleygoldberg Wed 31-May-17 16:08:50

Can you go on the balcony and scream?grin

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