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To think people don't understand the term "wendied"?

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MasuMara Tue 30-May-17 20:18:16

To be "wendied" you invite a new person into YOUR friendship group.

This new person then turns that friendship against you.

HTH grinbiscuit

shouldnthavesaid Tue 30-May-17 20:21:32

I can't stand that it's called 'wendying' .. one of the most special people I know is called Wendy sad blush

Sionella Tue 30-May-17 20:23:48

Fun Wendy fact: J M Barrie made up the name when he wrote "Peter Pan"!

AnythingConsidered Tue 30-May-17 20:37:04

What is the term if you get invited into a group & become better friends with the group than the person who invited you (but don't turn the group against the invitee)?

I am the one who was invited When I moved to a new area. I love all of the group but definitely closer to the others than the one who welcomed me in. We are all on good terms, socialise together & independently...

keeplooking Tue 30-May-17 20:44:01

What is the term if you get invited into a group & become better friends with the group than the person who invited you (but don't turn the group against the invitee)?

Do you mean that the person who invited you isn't as close to the others as you now are, or that you are closer to the others than you are to her?

AnythingConsidered Tue 30-May-17 21:12:24

Both @keeplooking

bibbitybobbityyhat Tue 30-May-17 21:14:56

Yanbu.

But just why would "people" understand the term "Wendied" ?

It's a Mumsnet construct arising out of a thread quite a few years ago. An odd thing to start a thread about.

bibbitybobbityyhat Tue 30-May-17 21:16:05

I really like the name Wendy and think MN should stop using this nasty shortcut.

JollySmelly Tue 30-May-17 21:17:54

I was 'wendied' by an actual real life Wendy. grin

But I agree that if you are a nice Wendy, or know one, then it's not a very nice term.

Stickerrocks Tue 30-May-17 21:17:57

It falls into exactly the same category as "naice ham". One of those cliquey phrases which only exists in the parallel universe of MN. A quick Google proves the point - it means different things in the real world.

Waltermittythesequel Tue 30-May-17 21:18:34

Don't be ridiculous! It's nothing to do with the name. And it's nothing to do with any lovely Wendies you might know in RL. hmm

Sionella I love random facts like that. Will store it and pass it on.

Louiselouie0890 Tue 30-May-17 21:18:51

Never heard of it is it an area thing?

Waltermittythesequel Tue 30-May-17 21:20:18

It's from an Enid Blyton book if memory serves.

One of the characters, a nasty little madam who was new and turned the group against the heroine, was called Wendy.

I remember the thread, but not the book. Was it Mallory Towers?

Aridane Tue 30-May-17 21:20:28

It's MN lingo

alltouchedout Tue 30-May-17 21:21:11

I didn't know the term but now I do. Thank you.

Redcrayons Tue 30-May-17 21:23:54

I remember the Original thread when someone was describing the situation and named the woman 'Wendy'.
I've never heard of it anywhere else so assumed it was a MN thing.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners Tue 30-May-17 21:24:18

It's from Judy Blume's Blubber.

PeanutButterJellyTimeforTea Tue 30-May-17 21:26:32

Why would they understand a term that was invented by a random on MN? It's not really a term.
And it's not really a thing either.

RelentlesslyPositive Tue 30-May-17 21:26:56

This is a "have you been on mumsnet long enough? " kind of thing. It annoys me slightly.

I've been on mumsnet for about 8 years under various names. I know what a hamwidge is, and so on... but mumsnet is supposed to be for everyone, it's not an exclusive club! We are all here to support each other, discuss things and swap ideas. I've had a lot of help from mumsnet, and I hope I've given some too.

I also think that the idea of being "wendied" was a bit unkind and unfair in the first place. It's best forgotten.

MrsLucyEmerson Tue 30-May-17 21:34:34

How else do people think of it?

The only possible explanation if you remember the original thread is the one described in the OP.

I am struggling to see how anyone would misuse the term...

HarrySnotter Tue 30-May-17 21:47:28

What a weird thing to start a thread about. Does it really matter?

QuimReaper Tue 30-May-17 21:48:34

Is it AndNone?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 30-May-17 21:49:06

Taat then - given that nobody outside of the site has heard of it

PovertyPain Tue 30-May-17 21:50:50

What other name would you use to describe being 'wendied'? I like it it. Ok it may have started on Mumsnet, but all terms/slang has to start somewhere.

PeanutButterJellyTimeforTea Tue 30-May-17 21:51:52

They also have to GO somewhere. It's an exclusive MN term, its not slang. It's an ingroup made up word, nothing more.

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