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To wonder what you would think if your OH said that

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Poisongirl81 · 29/05/2017 18:38

Before being with you in his life he has had sex with men! A couple of times just for the sex. He's also had long term things with women and fancies me very much. Just don't know how to feel.

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NellieFiveBellies · 29/05/2017 18:40

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ShinyGirl · 29/05/2017 18:41

He's bi.

Poisongirl81 · 29/05/2017 18:42

Would it bother You?

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ScrumpyBetty · 29/05/2017 18:42

So he is bisexual? It doesn't really make a difference who he has had sex with in the past, it's this present moment that's important. Do you trust him, does he treat you well, do you like him etc. Those are the important questions.

IloveBanff · 29/05/2017 18:42

Well, if I didn't know he was bisexual it would be a surprise, if I did, it wouldn't.

ScrumpyBetty · 29/05/2017 18:43

Does it bother you that he is bi poison because it sounds as though it does.

Poisongirl81 · 29/05/2017 18:43

I should have worded it would it bother You? I guessed he's bi

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Pinkheart5917 · 29/05/2017 18:43

He tried it and it didn't float his boat. It wouldn't bother me

Poisongirl81 · 29/05/2017 18:44

I don't know if it bothers me 🙄

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MitzyLeFrouf · 29/05/2017 18:46

It's okay to feel a bit weird about it if you've just found out about his being bi. It's also okay if you decide you'd rather not be in a relationship with a bisexual man.

BetterEatCheese · 29/05/2017 18:46

I was in a civil partnership with a woman, hadn't been with a man ever in an adult relationship (last boyfriend was when I was a 15) - split up with her, met dp, all is great 10 years later.

He is fine with my past. It doesn't have to matter but if it bothers you, talk to him

NeopreneMermaid · 29/05/2017 18:46

I'd want to know the details! Grin

The only concern I might have is whether he might yearn for something I physically couldn't do.

Poisongirl81 · 29/05/2017 18:49

I did ask the details...its pretty full on. It's just off as he's a manly man physical job etc I can't imagine him being bummed 😆 makes me feel a bit quesy

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ScottishBadger · 29/05/2017 18:50

Been here. Not a deal breaker. Bisexual doesn't mean you aren't capable of monogamy. Saying that, I have had both male and female partners.

sonlypuppyfat · 29/05/2017 18:50

I am completely open minded, but no I wouldn't like it one bit

Poisongirl81 · 29/05/2017 18:51

Sorry TIM but he prefers anal with me which makes me think he is still thinking about it

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ShinyGirl · 29/05/2017 18:53

Not all gay men like anal so that's not a sign.

MrsMeeseeks · 29/05/2017 18:55

I don't think it would bother me. I've had bi boyfriends before. I'd be really surprised though!

MitzyLeFrouf · 29/05/2017 18:56

Do you mean he prefers having anal sex with you over vaginal? Yeah, that would give me pause for thought.

khajiit13 · 29/05/2017 18:57

It would bother me and no I wouldn't like it.

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sonlypuppyfat · 29/05/2017 19:01

I don't think she's homophobic he's using her like he would use a man and she doesn't seem to like it, who would

uncoolnn · 29/05/2017 19:03

My DP is bisexual and I know he has had sex with men. I don't ask details but it doesn't bother me.

MaidenMotherCrone · 29/05/2017 19:04

Yes it would bother me. It would be the end of any relationship.

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