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DHcanbeabitofatwat Mon 29-May-17 08:17:34

Dh has been on a diet for ages, every week he requests 'just chicken/steak/fish, green veg and eggs'

Every week he mopes around because all he has is chicken, green veg and eggs. Every week I throw out uneaten veg.

This week he has requested fish. Simply fish, no specifics in to how much or what type.
There's a whole fucking ocean out there, would it kill him to be specific?

He comes out with the phrase 'why is it all my other friends wives do a quick bit of research in to the diet and buy it for them?' and I want to punch him in the face.

Aibu to think if you are on a specific diet and not buying your own food you should be specific with the person buying it?

DHcanbeabitofatwat Mon 29-May-17 08:20:41

Reading it back I think it might just be me overreacting...
So as not to drip feed I'm not in the happiest of moods as we've not been very close recently and he forgot our anniversary today, even after being reminded a couple of times this month by me and again by his parents.
He owns his own business ffs. He's more than capable.

ChasedByBees Mon 29-May-17 08:21:14

He comes out with the phrase 'why is it all my other friends wives do a quick bit of research in to the diet and buy it for them?' and I want to punch him in the face.

I would punch him in the face for that comment too. So not only do you have to prepare things for his chosen diet but you have to become an expert in the nutritional requirements of it too?

Does he often push his 'work' onto you? Have you read this?

ifyoulikepinacolada Mon 29-May-17 08:21:22

Yanbu at all! Why can't he tell you?!

Trifleorbust Mon 29-May-17 08:21:31


Get him a TARDIS? He can boogie back to the 50s.

MrsDc7 Mon 29-May-17 08:22:58

My husband does that grin he asks for 'something healthy' but doesn't get more specific... we're a healthy family anyway so not remotely helpful. I sympathise. Maybe a week of kippers would encourage him to be a bit more specific?

Hassled Mon 29-May-17 08:23:39

No you're not over-reacting. If he wants to follow a specific diet fair enough but then he puts some work in - he researches recipes and comes up with specific ideas. Is there a very good reason why he can't step foot in a supermarket or so some online shopping himself? And the forgetting the anniversary is crap when it clearly matters to you and he's had reminders.

MuddyMoose Mon 29-May-17 08:26:00

YANBU. My partner is on a bit of a health kick at the moment & he either buys his own foods or let's me know what he's currently eating. He would never tell me I should "google & research"!

If he wants to eat a particular way then he should be suggesting what he wants. Cook him a fry-up. Give him a real reason to complain about his food!

Justanothernameonthepage Mon 29-May-17 08:26:00

That would leave me letting him do the entire food shop for a month, as well as letting him research a meal plan for the whole family. He's sloping off his mental work to you. But yes, if you're on a special diet, then normally, your the one who does the research and the organising of meals. Unless you're under 12.

DHcanbeabitofatwat Mon 29-May-17 08:28:38

Well I'm glad it's not just me as he certainly makes me feel like it is.
I don't care what his friends wives do, they are not us.

Now he has requested salmon (2 fillets per meal shock)but will also ask me to try and keep the food bill down. It's honestly like he's living on a different planet recently.

ClopySow Mon 29-May-17 08:29:01

Laughing at a week of kippers.

Or a week of timmed sardines?

Trifleorbust Mon 29-May-17 08:33:21

OP, why isn't he cooking these healthy meals?

DHcanbeabitofatwat Mon 29-May-17 08:39:25

Because he works Trifle hmm
Apparently if you work then you don't have to do anything else.

Vroomster Mon 29-May-17 08:42:39

I'd be telling him to plan his own bloody meals if he wants specific things.

And I take it you sit on your arse OP. 🙄 Your DH sounds like a dick.

Trifleorbust Mon 29-May-17 08:42:45

Then there's your problem.

nancy75 Mon 29-May-17 08:43:39

Buy him roll mops, they're fish and he will never ask you to get him anything again

Dishwashersaurous Mon 29-May-17 08:44:00

Just don't cook for him.

I don't know what you want to eat, so didn't cook for you.

SimbaTheLion Mon 29-May-17 08:45:22

Apologise profusely for being unable to fulfil his high expections and for failing in your wifely duties and suggest he does his own food shopping as it obviously requires level of expertise which you lack. Try to do it with a straight face and in a sincere way.

You will be preparing a family meal every evening. If he doesn't want that he can shop and cook for himself!

TheFifthKey Mon 29-May-17 08:46:05

God I used to hate it when exH would go on a diet. He'd pronounce "we need to eat more healthily" and make salads and stir fries (I hate stir fry) - I am not and never have been overweight, my meals are always healthy and balanced, the problem was he ate huge quantities of junk food like biscuits. I'd spend the whole time fucking starving, filling up furtively on other stuff and having to listen to him tell me how much he'd lost every day. In the end I let him just make his own meals, but it's a disconnected way to live. Honestly, the grips and moaning about his health, weight and fitness drove me insane, it really was like it was my problem to sort out and anything that want working was due to me not doing enough. I managed to deal with my own weight and fitness without his help, though...

expatinscotland Mon 29-May-17 08:48:37

'It's not the 1950s. Working is not a get out of life free card. I don't care what other people's Stepford wives do. I'm not running a restaurant. If you want to do a diet you cook your own food and buy it, too. Then you'll see how expensive it is.'

But there will be posts on here about how you can find cheap salmon and how you can cater to this person because he works.

Boulshired Mon 29-May-17 08:49:25

The diet is not his problem, his whole attitude is.

DameDeDoubtance Mon 29-May-17 08:50:43

By him a book called Wifework, make sure he reads it. You do not have to do his thinking for him, that's not your job.

DHcanbeabitofatwat Mon 29-May-17 08:52:22

You are right Boulshired.
He's up his own arse recently. I will buy his food but he'll have to cope with mostly frozen fish and cook it himself. I find it hard enough finding meals that me and the kids can eat together when the youngest is so fussy.

Phoebefromfriends Mon 29-May-17 08:54:25

It doesn't sound like he's loosing weight more loosing his sense of reality. Two salmon fillets per meal is expensive. Refuse to do it and suggest he cooks for himself if he's so bothered. Are you a SAHM?

YetAnotherSpartacus Mon 29-May-17 08:55:52

I keep thinking of the fish slapping dance from Python.

Sorry OP - he does sound like a bellend.

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