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AIBU? Can't tell what new neighbour is saying

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nutterbutsquashed Sun 28-May-17 23:22:32

I can't work out a word he's saying.

I actually find it quite annoying. If I'm in the garden he shuffles over and mumbles something at me. I just end up saying "oh, really ... right ... yes ... oh?"

How do you deal with it? AIBU to wish he'd bugger off!

SynysterGates Sun 28-May-17 23:23:26

don't know what your saying

Haudyerwheesht Sun 28-May-17 23:24:42


nutterbutsquashed Sun 28-May-17 23:25:31

You're, Synyster

Babyblues14 Sun 28-May-17 23:25:41

Just say I'm sorry I can't hear what your saying. Otherwise it will just go on forever and annoy you even more

Moanyoldcow Sun 28-May-17 23:25:55

Just say 'what did you say? Can you speak up please?'

This is not rocket science...

kaytee87 Sun 28-May-17 23:26:03

You could perhaps just ask him to speak up...

IDontBowlOnShabbos Sun 28-May-17 23:30:00

Sorry this has really made me laugh grin

Just ask him to repeat himself. It's not that hard! If you have to do it more than twice then just make up your own conversation. I'm sure he'll soon leave you alone.

nutterbutsquashed Sun 28-May-17 23:31:34

I have but he just continues mumbling and I still can't tell.

There comes a point where repeatedly asking someone to repeat themselves gets embarrassing and plus I'm really not that interested anyway!

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Sun 28-May-17 23:32:57

Higher fence. With brambles. And a vulture, if you can manage it.

That'll keep him away.

Moanyoldcow Sun 28-May-17 23:34:17

Literally, I would just say 'I can't understand what you are saying' very loudly until he either leaves you alone or sorts himself out.

I don't understand why you're embarrassed.

nutterbutsquashed Sun 28-May-17 23:35:35

I'm not embarrassed.

IDontBowlOnShabbos Sun 28-May-17 23:38:22

Well just carry on what you're doing then.
I do know what you mean though, I think we've all been in that situation.

If I'm at work then I'll say I'm sorry I'm a bit hard of hearing can you speak loudly, slowly and clearly (I'm not). If it's just in day to day life I do the same as you. Not much help sorry!

IDontBowlOnShabbos Sun 28-May-17 23:39:31

Or get the vulture. That sounds cooler.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer Sun 28-May-17 23:40:31

Just nod and agree it's not hard.

Grilledaubergines Sun 28-May-17 23:41:23

If I can't understand someone, o blame it on me and say 'I'm so sorry, my hearing isn't great, you you say it again' - they then try to speak more clearly, if possible and I haven't embarrassed them. Maybe try similar?

Grilledaubergines Sun 28-May-17 23:42:09

Although I'm having trouble typing sentences, it seems - sorry for the typos etc!

Moanyoldcow Sun 28-May-17 23:44:40

There comes a point where repeatedly asking someone to repeat themselves gets embarrassing and plus I'm really not that interested anyway!

That's what you posted - I obviously misunderstood hmm

BoomBoomsCousin Sun 28-May-17 23:46:45

When I have continual difficulties with someone I usually say "I'm sorry, my hearing is terrible, I can't tell what you're saying. Could you speak more clearly?" Which normally has the effect of making people who would normally just repeat the same mumble actually try a bit harder. But it doesn't always work.

Slimthistime Sun 28-May-17 23:52:36

Don't say "yes" or "right" because you might accidentally agree to a threesome with his twin or something.

nutterbutsquashed Sun 28-May-17 23:53:05


"Mumble mumble mumble "
"Mumble mumble mumble "
"Excuse me?"
"Mumble mumble mumble "
"I'm sorry, could you say that again?"

does get awkward. Plus I don't have TIME!

WhiteCaribou Sun 28-May-17 23:53:12

Perhaps the poor chap has a problem? My MIL had a minor stroke about ten years ago from which she fully recovered except that her speech was slightly affected. As she's got older she sounds more and more mumbly and it's now really difficult to understand what she is saying. It's not for want of trying either from her or us, she simply cannot speak clearly. It's really isolating for her and has sapped her confidence enormously. Maybe your neighbour has some similar problem.

29Palms Mon 29-May-17 00:32:07

Ask him to write it down.

nina2b Mon 29-May-17 00:50:37

Why bother with this AIBU thing, at all?
You have so little time.

MoggieMaeEverso Mon 29-May-17 09:25:19

Just mumble back at him. If he asks you to repeat yourself, mumble some more.

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