A bit long sorry. Growing up me and my mother were never very close. I spent most of my childhood living with grandparents and then I left home when I was 17 and moved in with DH. She's admitted herself she couldnt be bothered with me and didn't want a child. I have a brother and a sister who are both closer to my mum.
Now in my 30s Me and DH have been together 17 years and have 3 DC. Recently I've seen a lot more of my mother and she's seemed to be making a little more effort to want to spend time with me (never bothered before) but not with my children. I've let this go as because she couldn't be bothered bringing me up I don't expect her to be bothered with grandkids.
We now are saving up to buy a house and we're looking to move back to my home town to rent for a bit so we can be closer to FIL and his wife so they can help with childcare and we can save. FIL and his wife are retired but FIL isnt in the best of health. I mentioned this to my mother and suggested maybe she would like to pick our youngest two up from school in her day off (she has one day off through the week and then weekends but I only suggested one day) and look after them for an hour after school to give FIL that break. She refused saying she only has one day off through the week and I was being selfish asking. Ive never asked my mother for help before yet I have a brother (in his 30s) living at home getting financial help and a sister (in her 20s) also living at home getting financial help.
Was I being selfish? MIL and her husband look after the kids one weekend a month but love too far to do school pick ups. DH told me to forget it and I should of never asked because she's the selfish one. AIBU to ask my mother for help whilst we save for a house? I feel so guilty as I know they are our children DH mum and dad help us so much already. I also thought it would be nice for my youngest DC to get to know mum. My teenager doesn't talk to her because he doesn't know her!
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Numberonecook · 28/05/2017 13:47
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