Hi lovely ladies,
Please bare with me, this may be long but i genuinely need help with this one.
Me and dh have been together 12 years, married 7 and have 2 ds.
At first me and MIL get along really well, i lived with dh and PIL. I lived with them for 6 six months while we bought our house. She and i would go shopping, drinks etc. Then my closest relative died after a battle of cancer, i was the main carer while working ft and studying. I had no help or support (seperate issue with husband that we have since resolved).
Going through this horrendous time really changed my perpesctive on life, i realised i had to speak up more and stop putting myself in situations that made me unhappy. This caused my relationship with my MIL to suffer, i started saying no.
Along came my ds and we have done nothing but clash. I have no family so it is only PIL who can occassionally babysit and to have that lifeline has been wonderful. However, my eldest ds comes home a little rat bag. No manners and wants everything and he wants it now! Over the immediate couple of days he is a nightmare then will slowly come back to the polite happy child i have raised. Up until now, i have never stopped them going to stay with PIL but i am now dreading him coming home! I have tried talking to her and addressing his behaviour but i am met with "hes always so good for us though". Yes he may be, but you never tell him no or wait so ofcourse he has no reason to act out.
She gets very grumpy when i wont allow my dc to be around a certain family member of hers who should never be allowed around children (her own admission)
She is a very domineering woman who is never wrong and knows everything. My poor FIL says very little for the quiet life. She slags him.off constantly infront of my dc and now 4 year old is repeating it.
My BIL and SIL have gone nc with her due to her behaviour and at the time i was deeply hurt by there actions. Now..... that must be bliss!
Little things include nagging in my dhs ear about me, giving dc food/drink iv asked her not too and refusing to take children anywhere ( they only ever stay in house or go to fast food chain)
Please help MN, aibu to go no contact fo4 my own mental health? Leave hubby to deal with her?
Ps hubby is in full agreement with me and she does his head in too!
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Bubblegumfan · 28/05/2017 12:01
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