DH booked to go to major arena tonight a while ago (not far from Manchester) He asked me after what happened last week how I felt. I was honest and said that I know we have to live and keep going etc, but honestly I am worried while its so fresh and even though I know this is very unreasonable I wish he wasn't going purely because I will worry all night, however whatever he decides is his decision. I 100% know it is unreasonable to not do stuff because of this, and I know its even worse to ask someone else not to. That's not my AIBU.
DH said he could not enjoy himself knowing I would worry, and would not go. Then two hours ago said actually he was going as had expected me to be ok by now. I repeated that whatever he decides is fine and although I will worry its up to him. He says if I 'forbid' him he will not go, otherwise he will. I tell him I will never forbid, I will tell him I am worried but ultimately it is his decision and that's that.
DH gets mad at me and says he will happily not go if I forbid. I refuse to forbid a grown man. If he cares that much about me worrying he will not go, but there is no comeback or issue if this is not the case as I know I am wrong about not going in case of an attack in the first place.
DH has gone, but is mad at me because apparently I have made him go feeling guilty.... I just thought I could express concern but not dictate. So who is unreasonable (and please feel free to reassure me things are more secure now!)
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Dottie39 · 27/05/2017 18:27
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