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Bringing unwell children to group

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wildflowerfable Fri 26-May-17 19:17:50

I know that I probably am BU, but getting really fed up of this now.

So many mums at group knowingly bring their ill children along.
"Yeah he's been up all night being sick"
"I think dd has chicken pox"
"Ds has had a temperature and diarrhoea since early this morning" etc.

Just since the start of this year, we have had 4 tummy bugs at home (nearly 1 year old dd, Dh and I). We have a clean home, and before I started taking dd to group we rarely got sick. I know it's good to build up her immunity, but I'm so fed of it now.

Aibu to wish that parents wouldn't bring their children to group when they know they're unwell? I really don't want to stop going, as dd really enjoys it and it's the only time I get to socialise, but I'm getting so fed up of this (and probably a bit precious too!).

Camelsinthegobi Fri 26-May-17 19:21:10

I once complained to our playgroup leader that a mum had brought along an older sibling who usually was at nursery because she'd been up being sick all night. No idea what she was thinking. The group leader sent her home.

furryelephant Fri 26-May-17 19:23:13

I just don't know why people would risk it angrymy 6 month old has had tonsillitis and sickness/diarrhoea probably caused by the antibiotics but I haven't taken her out all week just in case! It's been a horrible week for us both so I wouldn't want to risk another little one catching it sad

wildflowerfable Fri 26-May-17 19:23:41

camel I know I should probably tell the leader, I just feel a bit awkward about it. I don't know what they're thinking as it's so unfair on everyone else.

wildflowerfable Fri 26-May-17 19:28:49

elephant Your poor dd, hope she feels better soon.

Argeles Fri 26-May-17 19:30:11

I'm really fed up with it too, and the almost boasting of the parents as you mentioned above - it's as though they compete with each other.

We have been ill so many times as a result, including my DH, who hardly ever used to get ill before DD and I frequented these places. I have actually stopped going to so many groups, and as frequently as I couldn't cope with us all constantly being ill.

Justmadeperfectflapjacks Fri 26-May-17 19:32:38

If they are too ill to be around dc their own age then letting them breathe and spread lurgy over under 5's is ridiculously selfish.

MissionItsPossible Fri 26-May-17 19:32:58

I haven't got a child but IMO that is extremely selfish behaviour and YANBU. To be fair when I was about 6 or 7 my sister and I caught chicken pox and both aunties on my mom's side brought our cousins round to play with us so they'd catch it at an early age (we were all similar in age) but we were children then, not babies/toddlers and it was my aunties choice to do so.

EB123 Fri 26-May-17 19:36:40

This is awful, I don't know why people think it is okay.

wildflowerfable Fri 26-May-17 19:37:01

Yes in all the years I've known Dh he's had about two tummy bugs, but he's getting them so much now. I don't want to stop going as I've already stopped going to another group, but we're getting ill so frequently. It really does almost feel like a competition between some of the mums.

mission as you said, I think it's different when they are older/informed about the chicken pox beforehand. My friend just happened to mention it after we'd spent all mornine at group and then had coffee together.

wildflowerfable Fri 26-May-17 19:37:54

Morning *

NotAnotherUserName5 Fri 26-May-17 19:39:31

Yanbu. It's completely selfish!

Shopkinsdoll Fri 26-May-17 19:41:04

The little girl across the road was playing with my daughter. Both aged 5. She said to us, iv been off school all day and I have been sick. Next day my daughter was sick and missed a day at nursery. Grrrr

Kentnurse2015 Fri 26-May-17 19:45:31

We met up with my in-laws last weekend who then declared 'oh we think has chicken pox'. I was raging. It was confirmed the day after and now both my under 3's have been exposed at the same time. I'all keep them away from any groups until 3 weeks has passed or they get symptoms

wildflowerfable Fri 26-May-17 19:52:41

I can't believe how many parents seem to think this is okay. I understand I can't protect dd from everything, but I think if you actually know your child is unwell you don't bring them along to group.

I'm glad to see I'm not bu, I think mil thinks I'm being a bit precious about it (but then she does do this as well).

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